Safe People: How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't

By Henry Cloud, John Townsend, John Townsend

Book Overview

Safe People will help you discover why good people can get tangled in bad relationships, how to avoid repeating your own mistakes, and how to pick safe, healthy people for the friends you make and the company you keep.

Too many of us have invested in relationships that have gone wrong. Maybe you've been judged, manipulated, or controlled. Or maybe you've trusted the wrong people in the past. It's easy to make the same mistakes of judgment over and over--or, worse, to give up on trying to have great, authentic relationships again. But it doesn't have to be that way.

In Safe People, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend teach you that being with an unsafe person can be damaging to your confidence, your trust in others, and even your health. You'll learn that you have the power to surround yourself with accepting, honest, and safe people who draw you closer to being the person God intended you to be.

Drs. Cloud and Townsend, authors of the New York Times bestseller Boundaries, are here to share the lessons they've learned in their years of practicing psychology and studying the patterns and practices that support clear, biblical boundaries. In Safe People, they offer guidance for making safe choices in all of your day-to-day relationships, from family and friends to colleagues and partners.

Safe People will give you the tools you need to recognize what makes people relationally safe, form positive relationships, and even become a safe person along the way. Drs. Cloud and Townsend share expert insights that will help you ask important questions:

How can I learn to pick better friends?Why do I choose people who let me down?How did I end up with this critical boss?How do I attract irresponsible people?Why did I invest money with that unscrupulous person?What is it about me that draws the wrong types of people to me?Why am I drawn to the wrong types of people?

It's time to revitalize your connections and finally start enjoying the healthy, balanced relationships that you deserve.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0310345790
• ISBN13: 9780310345794
• Release Date: August 2016
• Publisher: Zondervan
• Length: 208 Pages
• Weight: 0.67 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.7" x 5.2" x 7.9"

Customer Reviews

Life changing book.

This book opened my eyes to relationships that I thought were safe but weren't.

Great book.

I have made the mistake of trusting the wrong people and been too kind, empathetic and giving. I had to stop assuming everyone was a good person. This book has helped me start to navigate and figure out who I can trust. I recommend this book and would read it again.

A well written and useful book

As a recent widower, the grief process has been a sad and lonely road as so-called friends disappeared. While it technically does not specifically deal with grief, the lessons learned in this book are very useful in connecting with supportive people.

Life Changing!!!

This is a book everyone should read. It can be life changing if while you are reading it you ask yourself, "am I a safe person?" It takes you through the characteristics of an unsafe person, a safe person, how to become a safe person, and then what to do with unsafe relationships you already have. You need to look at safe people from both sides - are your friends safe, and are you safe?

This book will change your life.

This book is full of life-changing material. It teaches you about discernment and how to break the cycle of bad relationships. Since it is based on Biblical principles, it gives you a framework on which to build relationships. I read it along with the workbook as part of a Bible study a couple of years ago and it made a tremendous impact on my life. I recommend this book to anyone I meet who is having any kind of relationship problem - either with their friends or their family. It is excellent!