Redefining Our Relationships: Guidelines for Responsible Open Relationships

by Wendy-O Matik

Book Overview

Don't let the title fool you. this IS a serious, thoughtful (and thought-provoking) comprehensive introduction to, and examination of, a much misunderstood and misused practice. But more than that, it is a witty, provocative, damn fine read, with as much to offer to the faithfully monogamous as to those looking for a bit more out of life, love and relationships. Go on. Dive in. "Wendy-O tackles a touchy subject with clarity and creativity. She...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1587900157
• ISBN13: 9781587900150
• Release Date: March 2020
• Publisher: Regent Press
• Length: 112 Pages
• Weight: 1.01 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.3" x 5.6" x 8.2"

Customer Reviews

Excellent Guide

This is an excellent guide for anyone thinking about alternative models of relationships. It provides real, practical, hands-on advice for maintaining non-monogamous relationships from the author's personal experience. Short enough to be read in one sitting and re-read often, this book really helped me make sense of my own relationships and experiences. Highly recommended!

A guide to ethical behavior in an open relationship

This is the first work I've read from this author but as half of a couple still finding our way in the non-monogamous lifestyle, I found this book really spoke to my heart. I have read many books on this subject but this was not written from the normal "swinging" perspective. The guidlines suggested in this book could, for the most part, apply to traditional relationships as well. This is the best book I have ever read on this subject and I am sure I will come back to read and review it over and over again. It will open up discussion between partners and was written with care and love. Thanks, Wendy, for such an uplifting work.

Open marriage

It's so wonderful to know that I'm not alone in wanting more out of life, but still wanting to remain married. It has given me the confidence to pursue my dreams, my life, and hopefully my straying husband will read the book one day!

Good guidelines

I happened upon Ms. O Matik at the San Francisco Anarchist book fair where she was selling this work. The book has nothing that is mind-bogglingly new. It is straight-forward and common-sensical. However it obviously comes directly from the author's personal experience and will help you steer through the complexities that might arise should you decide to pursue a polyamorous lifestyle. What is refereshing is that Wendy does not try to proselytizein this book: she does not try to advocate this lifestyle as the only way. The author takes a mature attitude and one does not feel that she has adopted this lifestyle for the sake of rebellion. In other words, the works flows from her center. It is a postive statement that is life-affirming, not a negative rebellion against.

Thought Provoking

This book is slender yet packed with thoughts, expressed clearly and succinctly. The author is a poet who lives the alternate lifestyle. The focus of her book is not limited to polyamorous sexual relationships, but goes beyond that to the many forms in which love and intimacy are shared. Although it is about polyamorous relationships, it is more than that -- it is a meditation on love, and invites the reader to think outside of categories about what one truly wants and needs as a human being.