Mixed Matches: How to Create Successful Interracial, Interethnic, and Interfaith Relationships

by Joel Crohn

Book Overview

Mixed matches are more complicated relationships than those between people from similar backgrounds. Often, the very qualities that attracted us to our partners ultimately lie at the roots of our most... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0449909611
• ISBN13: 9780449909614
• Release Date: February 1995
• Publisher: Ballantine Books
• Length: 335 Pages
• Weight: 0.75 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.8" x 5.5" x 8.3"

Customer Reviews

Very helpful for getting your head in the right place.

I bought this book early on in a mixed relationship, and I'm really glad I did. It definitely helped me shape my thoughts around the differences in origin with my boyfriend (we've been together a year and a half now). I didn't use it as a "fix" for a problem, just as a way to help me think things through. To believe that everything's going to be fine just because you're in love is a recipe for disaster, and this book will help to walk you through that. Plus, like someone else said, sometimes just hearing that you're not the only one going through it is the best help.

a guide for working through issues

I am an American in a relationship with a Kenyan man. I've read several books on the subject of intercultural relationships, as there is no one in my life to advise me in this area. This book was the toughest to get through because it is written on a much higher reading level than the other books were. However, it has been the most helpful. At the end of every chapter, there are worksheet-type pages. This book is more like counseling than simply reading. He introduces different issues in each chapter, and then he guides you through exploring how this issue is affecting you and your culture, your partner and their culture, and your relationship together.

book helped me (product of a mixed match)

I'm the product of a mixed match. My mother is Jewish, my father isn't, I wasn't raised anything. The book really helped me understand my own identity, and my own issues, plus the issues that led each of my parents to choosing a partner with a different background.

An in-depth look at interfaith and interethnic relationships

If you're looking for quick practical advice on meeting your partner's parents or what to wear to an Indian wedding, try the "Complete Idiot's Guide to Interfaith Relationships." But if you're looking for a deeper, more thoughtful discussion of the complexities of "mixed matches," especially their impact on the family and children, this book is for you. It delves into a very astute exploration of the motivations and attractions behind interfaith/interethnic/interracial relationships, and it thoroughly explores the difficulties involved in negotiating differences as they impact the partnership and the family. The discussion on raising children in "mixed" households is particularly enlightening. This book is heavy on the pyschology, which might be a turn-off to some, but it definitely gets the reader thinking about complex underlying issues.

Thoughtful insights on difficult issues in a mixed marriage

Crohn's book gets you started thinking about the issues that are amplified even more in a inter-ethnic, interracial, inter-religious marriage: dealing with in-laws, hidden expectations, raising children in a cross cultural environment and instilling a sense of identity in them. I recomend it highly. The sooner you read the book, the more time you have to deal with these issues. Besides, it is comforting to know you are not the only couple dealing with these issues :)