You Still Don't Understand

By Richard Driscoll, Nancy Ann Davis, Nancy Ann Davis Ph.D.

Book Overview

We can no longer afford to so misunderstand our opposites. See why men are more intrigued by casual sex and tend to be opportunists, but try to conceal it; while women are more easily offended and are... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0963412655
• ISBN13: 9780963412652
• Release Date: March 2009
• Publisher: Westside Psychology/Frontiers Press
• Length: 220 Pages
• Weight: 0.70 lbs.
• Dimensions: 8.8" x 0.3" x 5.0"

Customer Reviews

'As trite as it sounds, we are overworked and underloved.'

Husband and wife team Drs. Richard Driscoll and Nancy Ann Davis have produced yet another book about the gravely road of relationships in this very well written, readable and useable guide 'YOU STILL DON'T UNDERSTAND: Typical Differences between Men and Women - and How to Resolve them'. What makes this new addition to the mountain of self-help books unique is the warmly caring attitude of the writing and the downright sensible manner in which the differences between men and women are addressed. It is one thing to say that men and women are 'from different planets' and then use those differences to explain away why there will always be contrasts in the way men relate to women and women relate to men. But it is yet another thing to analyze in a most comprehensible way, using male/female symbol marks to isolated 'asides', to show how those differences can become more like assets than distractions to successful mating. The wise yet homespun language of this book discusses such important aspects as Listening, Hearing, and Equality in discussions between potential 'warring parties'. These chapters alone provide enough insight to warrant buying this book as a guide to improving relationships - especially married ones. An important example of this is suggesting that married couples make an agreement early on in their marriage about just how possible divorce would alter each partner's life (how children would be cared for, finances divided, etc). The 'equal parenting agreement will increase your chances of staying married and lower the chances that you will have to actually experience later what you want to avoid thinking about now'. That is how realistic and thoughtful the guidelines are in this book. Another example, 'Listen first, and say something to indicate that you have heard what your partner says. Then, in all fairness you can ask to he heard in return'. And these are but two samples of the kind of wisdom that emanates from this book. Another aspect of the writing is the lighthearted comparison of homo sapiens to other animal members of the earth, underlining similarities that make us think differently about our 'superior' status. The mating rituals and pairing rituals, the shared traits of monogamy versus polygamy, and the running comparison of animal behavior patterns keep this book light hearted as well as seriously focused. It is rare to encounter books of this nature that make such excellent reading. The authors must be terrific therapists! Grady Harp, September 09

May help many in getting what the other half thinks

Two different sides of the same coin don't have to be foreign in understanding one another. "You Still Don't Understand: Typical Differences Between Men and Women - and How to Resolve Them" is a guide for couples who want to best understand the enigma of the different sexes. Explaining the subtle differences in the general worldviews of men and women, "You Still Don't Understand" may help many in getting what the other half thinks.

Creative Solutions for Conflicted Couples

"Over time, it is the amount of compassion rather than the romantic flavoring that makes or breaks a marriage." ~ pg. 101 With over fifty percent of all marriages ending in divorce there is no shortage of books on how to have a successful relationship. By reading numerous books on relationships you can stop yourself from becoming a statistic. In this book you will find out the real reason for high divorce rates and finally understand why men and women can't get along. "You Still Don't Understand" is a revealing look at human reactions to male and female interactions. After reading this book you will come to realize how much society favors women in almost every case. We are much more protective of women and have a disdain for deadbeat dads. The authors seem genuinely concerned with the fact that so many marriages end badly. Throughout this book they seek to provide advice to both sexes as to what it takes to get along amicably. They present their findings and then guide the reader to a workable solution. I was actually surprised to read that anger affects men more deeply than it does women. I had no idea that after a fight men hold a grudge for an extended period of time. I thought women would be the ones to remember a fight more vividly. Women can actually become more empowered if they get a handle on their anger. Therefore stopping men from withdrawing into silence, which is abhorred by women. Richard Driscoll and Nancy Ann Davis bring up fascinating points I haven't seen in less unique relationship books. Their book truly adds to the cultural conversation society is currently having about male and female interactions. By reading "You Still Don't Understand" you will gain a fresh new understanding of what it means to be male or female. If you feel that men and women are destined to always be at odds with one another you will be pleasantly surprised to find that there are some very civilized ways of communicating that will bring peace to an otherwise conflicted relationship. "We feel so strongly that men should sacrifice themselves to protect women that it would be unthinkable to try to turn the arrangement around." ~ pg. 57 If I had to choose twenty books on relationships this one would be in the top twenty because it is solution oriented. This book gives you the skills you need to improve your relationship immediately! ~The Rebecca Review

So you think we live in a patriarchal society? Perhaps you should think again! Or, better yet, read

Being a single mother who has gone through several periods of complete abhorrance of the male species would make me an unlikely candidate for a 5-star review of a book that is bent towards more understanding of males in our society. I must, however, give "Opposites as Equals" a 5-star review due to the authors' creative and informative assessment of the innerworkings of male/female relationships and the colorful and lively manner in which the authors present this information. Drs. Richard Driscoll and Nancy Ann Davis have obviously spent an exhaustive amount of time gathering research and have formed an intriguing and unarguable analysis that supports males stepping up to the plate and voicing their concerns. If you have been fascinated in the past with how men and women come from separate planets, you won't want to pass this one up! In "Opposites as Equals", the authors travel way past Venus and Mars as well as the other planets in our solar system and shoot straight out to the stars! I have benefited from this book greatly! I hope you do too! Personal Shielding to Deflect Hostility (Book & Audio CD) Marriage on the Rocks: New Hope for a Relationhsip Revoluiton Gone Blindly Astray Mind Slayer