Where to Draw the Line: How to Set Healthy Boundaries Every Day

by Anne Katherine

Book Overview

From the acclaimed author of the perennial favorite Boundaries, Where to Draw the Line is a practical guide to establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries in many different situations. With every encounter, we either demonstrate that we'll protect what we value or that we'll give ourselves away. Healthy boundaries preserve our integrity. Unlike defenses, which isolate us from our true selves and from those we love, boundaries filter out harm...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0684868067
• ISBN13: 9780684868066
• Release Date: August 2000
• Publisher: Touchstone Books
• Length: 288 Pages
• Weight: 0.61 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.7" x 5.5" x 8.4"

Customer Reviews

I love that she gives real life examples !

I have read many self help books and attended many workshops, groups, and counseling.Unlike most self help books that get boring, and I end up putting them down never to pick up again, this book I read right through feeling validated and started to heal as I read. Even though this book was written 24 years ago, I could put myself in almost every example not only as a person who boundries had been violated, but also that I have unknowingly violated other people boundries. Ann Katherine gives an easy to understand example using different responses to the same issue to give you an idea of how to handle a situation multiple ways. 5 stars for this one!

Excellent, excellent book!

Do you ever wonder how it is that people seem to walk all over you? Do you have a difficult time saying no? Are you perpetually overextended and running on empty? In clear, plain language and with easy to understand examples this book points out new ways to respond to old situations in a way that makes sense and will change your life. I recommend this book to any and all of my friends who seem to be struggling with the boundaries in their life. Understanding limits, how to set them, maintain them and respect them is a crucial key to self-maintenance and enjoying life. When I Say No, I Feel Guilty

This should be required reading for everyone on the planet!

I am in my 40s and read this book with the eye-opening wonder of a very clueless child. So many times I read things here that were a complete revelation to me and I'd think to myself, wow, I'm allowed to say that to someone?!?! Yes, we are allowed to speak our own truth and put our needs above our habit of pleasing others at our own expense! I like that she writes about different topics and gives examples of what to say when someone crosses the line. This is info I can put to work and have already. She also dissected some conversations, pointing out where someone was being manipulative. I can now see that I have been manipulated in conversations and it was such a light bulb moment to understand how it was happening and how to handle it in the future. I raved about the book to friends while I was reading it and three of them wanted to borrow it when I was done. When I finished, I decided I couldnt bear to let go of my copy so I bought three copies as gifts. Money well spent. I intend to buy two more copies for my teenage niece and nephew as well. If everyone could read this book, ESPECIALLY WOMEN, the planet would be a safer, saner and more peaceful place.

Great resource

This book helped me to not only identify healthy boundaries it also offered sound advice on how to set boundaries. Plenty of examples regarding everyday situations offer a pratical solution to sticky situations or otherwise uncomfortable communications.

Excellent book on boundaries and codependence!

When my counselor recommended me to read this book, I had no clue what I was in for. This book opened my eyes to all of the unhealthy patterns we have in our relationships and where they come from. It has literally changed my life. Thanks to this book, I am more in touch with myself and have more fulfilling relationships with others in which we truly care about one another. If you'd like to learn about yourself and are really ready for some positive change (it will be painful at first but it is definitely worth it), try this book. The other book I highly recommend on this topic is "The Ever-Transcending Spirit" by Toru Sato. Sato has an unbelievable ability to show us how complex things like internal conflict and relationships work in the simplest ways. Good luck on your transformation!

Everyone Should Read This Book

Over the past 13 years I've read A LOT of books on relationships, recovery, self-esteem, etc. and this is by far one of the best I've read. The title of the book does not do it justice because this book is a positive way to have not only good boundaries, but good relationships with almost everyone. I highly recommend this book for anyone who is in any recovery program.