When a Man Faces Grief / A Man You Know Is Grieving

By Thomas Golden and James E. Miller

Two books in one. One half is for men who are grieving, with 12 helpful suggestions, each a chapter by itself. The other half is for those who want to understand and help men who are grieving, also in... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1885933274
• ISBN13: 9781885933270
• Release Date: September 1998
• Publisher: Willowgreen Publishing
• Length: 64 Pages
• Weight: 0.22 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.2" x 5.6" x 8.5"

Customer Reviews

Helpful But No Magic

This book offers some practical things when dealing with grief from the loss of a love one. There is no magic bullet to eliminate the grief one feels when a close love one dies, but the things presented here should help with dealing with the grieving process.

Finally, a concise review of how differently men grieve!

I don't like to give 5 stars to books. It seems people either give 1 or 5, and their reviews lack depth. However, I will give this 5 stars because it worked for me, and it has helped other friends of mine who faced loss. For me, I gave up a great, prestigous job due to stress. I didn't know how to handle it, and the grief of loss was MUCH bigger than I ever thought it would be. My wife and women at our church would add comforting comments, but it simple wasn't enough. They did not know the depth of my grief and the personal damage to my self esteem. A parish nurse gave me this book, and it laid out every emotion and coping skill that I was fumbling with to manage the grief of my job loss. Men do grieve much differently than women because their roles and the way they process things is much different than women. This book focuses on those uniquenesses, and does it with brevety and precision. Since I had my loss and recovery, I have becom a hospice volunteer at a large local hospital. I work mainly with men, and this book is like an operator's manual for a man's dying process. If you know what a man feels and from where he draws his final pride in life, you can help him in that process. The other great thing about this book is that it does not bog you down with clinical analysis or university studies. It gives you the facts and you can review it speedily whenever you need it. Get this book. You will never be sorry.

A Little Volume With a Big Message on Masculine Grief

This is one of the most concise and useful books on grief that I have ever read. Although the volume is small, it packs a powerful message of healing for those using a more masculine way of grieving (usually men but also some women) and for friends and loved ones of the bereaved.The book is divided into two parts. The first half seeks to assist the bereaved themselves; the second half seeks to educate those who are around the bereaved person (usually a male) in order to assist him through the grief process. Thomas R. Golden is listed as first author of the first half of the book; James E. Miller is listed as first author of the second half."When a Man Faces Grief/ A Man You Know is Grieving" is unique in the way it is set up: The front cover shows a winter scene of snow-covered trees; the back cover shows the photographic negative of that same scene. The reader will also notice that the after finishing the first half of the book ("When a Man Faces Grief"), the second half is printed upside down. To read the second half ("A Man You Know is Grieving"), the reader closes the book and flips the entire volume over towards himself or herself to the cover with the photographic negative.Each half consists of twelve, 2-page chapters, followed by a short summary list of ideas. While reading this book, I was reminded of Alla Renee Bozarth's, "A Journey Through Grief." However, the Golden/Miller book concerns itself with the more masculine kind of grieving. And whereas Bozarth's book is geared almost exclusively for the bereaved, Golden and Miller's book is also for those who are around the bereaved person.This book is very readable. It is similar to Thomas R. Golden's more in depth "Swallowed By a Snake: The Gift of the Masculine Side of Healing." However, I could definately recognize the presence of not one, but two male voices in Golden and Miller's jointly authored work. I very much recommend this book, even though it is a small one that can be read very quickly.

Male grief in the Extreme

I lost my parents (and job) in the last year. I cannot seeanyone "Loving" this book but it has been a great help tome, understanding what and how I can deal with my grief. Hell on earth as now arrived in the form of overtly incomprehensable evil in NY/WTC.If I had the money I would donate thousands of these tothe brave souls working in and around america's secondperl harbor.God Bless.

Easy reading for men who are grieving

As a man who has known grief, I can testify that this little book is a very useful tool for grieving men. It's size and writing style are right for someone in the throes of grief--simple and to the point. The two-sided format is an ingenious way to show that it addresses both men and those who know men who are grieving. I fully recommend this book as well as Tom Golden's other book on men and grieving, Swallowed by a Snake.