We're Still Family: What Grown Children Have to Say About Their Parents' Divorce

by Constance Ahrons

Book Overview

What is the real legacy of divorce? To answer this question, Constance Ahrons, Ph.D., interviewed one hundred and seventy-three grown children whose divorcing parents she had interviewed twenty years... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0060931205
• Release Date: May 2005
• Publisher: Harper Perennial
• Length: 304 Pages
• Weight: 0.55 lbs.
• Dimensions: 8.0" x 0.7" x 5.3"

Customer Reviews

Worth the wait

This was a great book, well-researched and living proof kids can survive and thrive after divorce! It's great to hear what the kids have to say about things 20 yrs later. Good read before, during and after the divorce. Highly recommended to anyone remotely involved in a divorce--even relatives.

Excellent Resource for Adult Children of Divorce

For me, the best insights in the book came in the last chapter. Dr. Ahrons posits two questions to her research participants:1. From your experience growing up in a divorced family, what advice would you give to parents who are divorcing?2. What advice would you give to other kids whose parents are divorcing?The answers that follow are tremendously valuable to anyone (including children) who are experiencing, or have experienced, divorce.I highly recommend this book to parents who are concerned about the impact that their divorce may have on their children, and to adult children of divorce who are struggling to understand how their parents' divorce has impacted their lives.(Full Review at FamilyResource.com)

Straight Talk On Strengthening Binuclear Families

Dr. Ahrons offers solid direction in ways to improve binuclear family harmony, yet there is no cookie cutter approach, for her recognition of the unique circumstances that exist from one person or family situation to another is crystal clear. If you wish to feel both informed and optimistic about gaining strength as part of a binuclear family, or you want a deeper understanding of the myths surrounding the lives of families, maybe yours, postdivorce, read this book. It is fitting that the final chaper is Advise From The Front Lines: How to script a good divorce. Here you can see clearly what her research unveiled giving the 173 adults interviewed, the opportunity to express what does and does not really matter when you are a child living in a divorced family. What advice would you give to parents who are divorcing, what advice would you give to other kids whose parents are divorcing? This illuminating chapter is an opportunity to learn from the kids who have lived it, now with 20 years of experience under their belt. Dr. Ahrons believes in family. The results from her interviews coupled with the wisdom and experience that her impressive background provide, give me hope for the connectedness possible in binuclear families. This book is readable, not at all dry, which is an accomplishment when it comes to revealing results from interviews. See for yourselves.