Undressing the American Male: Men with Sexual Problems and What Women Can Do to Help Them

by Eva Margolies

Book Overview

Filled with fascinating case histories, as well as specific exercises and guidelines to determine when professional help is needed, this groundbreaking and compassionate book is for every man and... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0452274443
• ISBN13: 9780452274440
• Release Date: September 1995
• Publisher: Plume Books
• Length: 288 Pages
• Weight: 1.19 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.9" x 5.7" x 8.7"

Customer Reviews

Very Interesting Book For Women-- Tells You a Lot About How Men Think!

I found most of this book to be completely fascinating. The case studies were especially interesting, like the average-American, apple-pie cases where the husband is actually a cross-dresser and the therapist has to find a way to mitigate the issue. Ouch! That would be a very tough pill to swallow if you found out AFTER you were married to a man that he was aroused by wearing your clothing. Although I agree with the other reviewer that the author, Eva Margolies seems a bit "forceful" sometimes, I have to tell you that many of these cases would make me bolt for the door. Very, very interesting reading. And not clinical or dry at all, which I expected. I felt that the book could have been organized a little better, but most of the issues are minor. This is a very good read for anyone interested in the subject of MALE sexual disfunction.

Great

A suggestive title that says that this title is aimed at the ladies. After reading it i realized that men cant find a lot of information that they need in this book, but also an insight into how women view sexual disorders. Great, but if you want something aimed at you, the man, look for "Natural Penis Enlargement: New Methods of Avoiding and Curing Impotence, Premature Ejaculation, and Erectile Dysfunction Safely and Inexpensively. New ... No Pumps, No Pills and No Gadgets! Vol. 2" by Platinum Millennium, great reference book for all men with issues

I was one of Eva's patients...

I had the opportunity to work with Eva and her staff in the beginning of 1999 at her New York office. The practices described in this book are consistent with the exercises given by Dr. Margolies in her practice.I came to see Eva for problems with sexual inexperience, premature ejaculation, and lack of sensation focus. Since I did not have a romantic partner at the time, I opted to do these exercises with her surrogates.When I went to see Eva, I had not conquered a lot of anxiety and self-esteem issues. These issues came up during therapy, but had to be sidetracked, so that I could accomplish the exercises. If it weren't for the caring staff, I wouldn't have opened up and made as much progress as I did. However, after therapy, I was not ready emotionally to put my new skills into use. I lapsed into old patterns.It is very important for the man and his partner, about to perform these exercises, to understand that without prerequisite work on possible general anxiety and abuse issues, these exercises have the potential to backfire and worsen conditions. The partner also needs to make sure none of the issues in "Chapter 11: When He's Not Getting Better" do not exist before beginning the exercises. I know that if I did these exercises with people who had issues, I would not have progressed at all.The only issue I have is that, in her practice, Eva tends to rely on this book as a bible. For example, I couldn't convince her that I went to a massage parlour for intercourse, and not for a hand job (p.13 First Edition). I hope that she updates her views in new editions, when she encounters people who refute her beliefs in the book.Overall, I think that this book is valuable. After having worked on underlying issues, I now feel ready to put these skills in motion when I hit the dating scene at age 25.

Very insightful and useful for inhibition problems

This book is an excellent source if you are plagued by inhibited male orgasm. It's the first source I've found which links shyness, social anxieties, late male virginity and mastubatory history to the problem. I'm a male suffering from the problem and the material is to the point an very insightful for the problem. Other sources discuss the treatment but don't give it meaning. The passages which are relevant to me were not harshly negative towards men. I found only one remark mildly distressing, namely advising women not to get into a relationship with a man who has orgasmic inhibitory problems unless properly treated (p.119 "Should you write him off?"). It seems to me that a compassionate working on the problem with an interested new partner is taken out of the picture or at least not encouraged. I'm willing to overlook that for the many added insights.

Insightful and Informative

As a woman in a long-term relationship, I found this book to be very helpful. Some of the problems that you may not have realized are very common and treatable, but were not comfortable discussing with friends are discussed in a conversational and common-sense fashion. It was a comfort to read of other women in relationships who were having similar problems. In that respect the book was helpful. I was able to understand some problems from the male viewpoint. I did not find the author's tone condescending or patronizing, but conversational. (However, if I were a man I might feel differently. My husband refused to look at it.) However, while helpful in addressing and explaining certain problems and possible reasons, I cannot imagine my husband (or any man that I know) to be willing to try any of the exercises. Read this book if you are encountering sexual problems and want to understand where they're coming from. That doesn't necessarily mean you will have a magical solution, but you might feel better, as I did, to know you're not alone in experiencing them and that it is not necessarily your fault.