Toilet Training-The Brazelton Way

by T. Berry Brazelton and Joshua D. Sparrow

Book Overview

Parents will welcome Brazelton's uniquely empathetic, wise, and helpful approach to this inevitable and often trying issue. Toilet training is a job for the child and not the parent, and by trying to force the issue or even encourage too hard, parents can set the stage for trouble. By "listening to the child," parents will know when their child is ready, and by guiding children in a series of gentle small steps, parents can help them make the accomplishment...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0738209201
• ISBN13: 9780738209203
• Release Date: January 2004
• Publisher: Da Capo Lifelong Books
• Length: 144 Pages
• Weight: 0.32 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.3" x 5.0" x 7.0"

Customer Reviews

A Respectful Experience - stop the power struggle

This was a quick and easy read. It gave me a new perspective on potty training - basically to chill out, give the control/choice back to my toddler, and allow him to feel pride for his accomplishments (rather than making it about pleasing Mom/Dad). I really appreciate this perspective and potty training is going so much better for us now that I've read this. I highly recommend for both parents and grandparents.

Great Info in a quick and easy read...

Mother's don't always have time to read...so I found this book to be a perfect book for my needs. It is a nice small book with the signs to look for, the false signs that many parents feel are 'signs', what parents do wrong most of the time, what they can do that is correct. the child's perspective on toliet training, etc...and it's 100% in line with my child development back ground...all the information fits well with most parenting styles...atachment parenting all the way to a more structured household. If you have a child that is gearing up to accomplish the big potty, I highly recommend this book before you get started. :)

Low-stress, relaxed training

I found this book after trying a quickie method. My son did fine peeing in the potty, but after he began holding bowel movements, we found he had been constipated for a while even before we began training. We went back to diapers. After a little looking around, I purchased this book because it addresses problems like that and is very centered on allowing the child to set the pace. This could take months and may include reverting back to previous steps along the way, including getting back in diapers temporarily. I am not against quicker methods, but this is how we will resume training because of our special circumstances. So if you are looking for training in 3 days...this isn't it. But if you want to let your child go about potty training when he is ready and can accept occasional backslides, I would highly recommend this book.

Fantastic

Dr. Brazelton somehow combines being kind, gentle, and respectful of children with being incredibly effective as a parent. This is a thin little book, just over 100 pages, and it clearly, thoroughly explains ways to train, and also addresses any potential problems. I have referred to this book three times since I read it originally with specific problems and to my surprise, they have each been covered in detail in this book. What I especially love about this book is that there are not lots of rules or elaborate plans to remember. It's the kind of book you don't have to take notes on...the information is so logical and instinctive that it somehow just naturally becomes part of your knowledge. There's very little effort involved. My daughter had several issues while potty training, and I regret that this book wasn't released earlier. After reading the book and implementing some of the things I learned, I realized that her problems were a direct result of some of my actions. Within a few days her potty training was reliable, and more importantly, both she and I were actually enjoying the process. It went from being stressful to me to being kind of touching in a way, as strange as that sounds! She was officially not a baby anymore! Dr. Brazelton gives frazzled parents a fresh perspective and gently guides us through this exciting (and terrifying!) time in our children's lives. I really appreciate the work he's done and the information he's shared.

Read this BEFORE your child is ready to train

This book came out when my son had just turned 3. I had been tearing out my hair worrying about potty training, and I believe that if I'd had this book when I was first considering the issue, I'd have had a much easier time of it. The book is short and easy to read, but dense with useful information. Brazelton backs up his "method" with firsthand information about child development. He is a doctor who has seen many children and their parents, not some person who got lucky with a forceful method that they think should work for everyone. Brazelton stresses that age is not a determinant for potty training readiness. He outlines several readiness signs. If you've researched potty training, most will seem familiar to you. What I found unique about his list is that he indicates that ALL conditions must be met before a child is ready, so there is no guesswork. Brazelton's "method" isn't a step by step troubleshooting guide. I kept wishing for such a thing, but it doesn't exist because parents need to use judgement and compassion in helping a child achieve this milestone. There is no sure fire recipe. But there are some things you can do that are key: Don't force a child who isn't ready. Don't approach potty training as a discipline issue. Do give children choices. Do remove barriers such as training then while bare bottomed so that they don't need your help with clothing. Don't show your anxiety about training or the child will pick up on it.The book includes chapters on special situations (constipation, encopresis, etc.). It also gives gender specific advice such as waiting to teach boys to urinate while standing until they are proficient at going "Number 2" in the toilet (once they stand up, it's hard to get them sitting again). I highly recommend this book and would suggest that even parents with children as young as 1 read it to prepare for potty training. Plan on spending at least a few weeks on making the transition, and more realistically, months. My son was 3 years and 3 months before we made any real progress at potty training.This is NOT the book for anyone who thinks children should train by an arbitrary age. It is NOT for anyone who judges a parent based on when their children learn to use the toilet. It is DEFINITELY NOT for anyone who wants overnight success.