To Love and Let Go

by Suzanne Arms

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• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0394503198
• ISBN13: 9780394503196
• Release Date: November 1983
• Publisher: Alfred A. Knopf
• Length: 228 Pages
• Weight: 1.50 lbs.

Customer Reviews

Excellent accounts of birthmothers' experiences

I read this book shortly after I placed my son for adoption in 1998. It allowed me, through real stories, to actually relax a bit from the harrowing process and grieve. I was most touched by the story that described the total quiet of coming home, and the pain of accepting a kindness from a stranger. I was 38. I have had depression of different levels since I was 13, and I had lost my last job due to it. I still thought I could be a good mother --because I have a great capacity to love--and have support from human services, etc. to get back on my feet, in spite of knowing the father was (is) really a sociopath. (My low self-esteem, and wanting to be paid attention to, had led me to be "charmed"--as in snake--by him.) But I knew the second day I was home with my baby that I could not give him a good life in any way. I am proud I was able to be realistic about that and make the adoption plan. I am in a very open adoption and am glad to do the hard work to make it work--always for the best of the child--for the joy we have all found. This book, along with two important books on open adoption, started me on my way.