They Wanted Access, Not Intimacy

By Kashmere Flakes

They Wanted Access, Not Intimacy is a raw, unflinching guide through the modern dating world, seen through the eyes of Kash, a young woman navigating her twenties. From charmers and ghosters to men who tested boundaries and offered conditional attention, Kash uncovers the truth behind attraction, desire, and access.

This book is more than a story, it's a guide for women learning to protect their energy, honor their boundaries, and recognize alignment when it appears. Each chapter offers journal prompts to help readers reflect, grow, and cultivate self-respect in a dating world full of mixed signals and fleeting connections.

Discover how to stop settling, trust your intuition, and choose presence, respect, and intimacy over charm, excitement, and access.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: B0GJHRPRX4
• ISBN13: 9798233057557
• Release Date: January 2026
• Publisher: Kashmere Flakes
• Length: 186 Pages
• Weight: 0.44 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.4" x 5.3" x 8.0"