The Ten-Minute Marriage Principle: Quick, Daily Steps for Refreshing Your Relationship

by Douglas Weiss

Book Overview

Counselor Dr. Douglas Weiss developed this easy-to-follow plan for improving your marriage. By investing just ten minutes a day to focus on each other and do simple exercises, couples can enhance... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0446698105
• ISBN13: 9780446698108
• Release Date: November 2007
• Publisher: Faithwords
• Length: 256 Pages
• Weight: 0.15 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.6" x 5.5" x 8.5"

Customer Reviews

Weiss offers special exercises that can be done in 10 minutes a day to ensure a happier, more solid

The core idea of THE TEN-MINUTE MARRIAGE PRINCIPLE --- that you can change your marriage in 10 minutes a day --- may strike some as improbably optimistic. But prolific author and executive director of the Heart to Heart Counseling Center Douglas Weiss believes it's possible. "If you're going to be married, have a great marriage! Let me show you how." Weiss, the host of TBN's "Winning @ Marriage" television game show (think "The Newlywed Game"), bases his book on "intimacy workouts," which he compares to physical workouts necessary to maintain good health. The exercises are deceptively simple. Pray out loud together. Look into each other's eyes (no, I'm not kidding!). Recall positive memories together. Tell each other what you are grateful for. Tell each other what you learned that day. "As the intimacy core muscles are strengthened daily, you can experience incredible closeness and endurance to run this marathon we call marriage." He spells everything out for readers, right down to suggesting the couple write in when they will begin the exercises, at what time of day and the three exercises they will start with. He suggests planning awards, such as a night at a Bed and Breakfast, as incentive for sticking with the exercises. Although the "ten minutes" principle is referred to throughout the book, it's actually a small portion of the text. After outlining the exercises, Weiss follows up with chapters that are intended to help couples in areas such as motivation, decision-making, fighting, sex and intimacy issues, problems from an abusive past, unforgiveness, money, forgetting to "date" and building a support network. The various chapters also emphasize faith, going to church and keeping God at the center of a marriage. One interesting chapter addresses what Weiss calls "spouse attack," in which one spouse experiences a flood of negative thoughts about the other. He shares about his own "spouse attacks" and offers practical tools for a "One-minute Turnaround" that he says will stop the negative thoughts before they get out of hand. These range from calling a friend for help to picturing happy times with your spouse. Three things stand in the way to success, Weiss writes: our personalities, "feelings first" decision making and waiting for desire. Strengthening marriages requires discipline, Weiss says. That means doing things you don't feel like doing, trying something that you may not feel is your personality and working intentionally to desire your spouse. Weiss's enthusiasm never wanes, and there is an abundance of promises and lots of motivational pep talk. Look for words and phrases such as "amazing" or "look and feel better" sprinkled throughout. Weiss does a good job --- maybe too good --- of giving detailed ways to implement the principles he suggests in the book. As one example, in "The Ten-Minute Argument" there are contracts, suggestions for consequences when someone doesn't follow through and ideas for ensuring that both spou

Good resource

We are fans of the author & his ongoing work in the recovery community. The exercises in this book really are simple, but powerful. Recommended for anyone wishing to put some more tools in their marriage toolbox.