For twelve years, Elana Auerbach and her spouse struggled over sex. She tried everything. And nothing changed until she stopped trying to fix the problem and started building a practice instead.
That practice is The Sure Thing. A weekly relationship ritual so simple it fits into a real-life schedule. So effective it transformed not just her marriage but her entire relationship with pleasure, with her body, and with herself.
A Math major with an affection for discernment, Elana brings a uniquely structured, intentional approach to intimacy. By blending personal narrative with a practical methodology, she maps out how to make sexual satisfaction a reliable, consistent rhythm rather than a rare exception.
What the Experts Say:"Reading The Sure Thing is like having a wise, loving friend cheering you on toward more joy and connection." - Dr. Laurie Mintz, psychologist and author of Becoming Cliterate
This is not a book about techniques. It is a guide to building a sustainable, personalized pleasure practice that grows deeper over time.
Inside, you will learn how to:
Release Sexual Shame: Discover what you actually want and let go of performance pressure.Meet Resistance with Play: Turn frustration into curiosity and deep emotional connection.Reverse the Drift: Create a reliable, grounded rhythm for intimacy for couples.The Solo Sure: Cultivate self-love and self-worth on your own terms, whether you are single or your partner isn't ready yet.Part memoir, part spiritual reflection, part practical guide: The Sure Thing makes pleasure feel possible again.