Check-ins, negotiations, "the talk." People across the relationship continuum have different words for the frequently awkward and occasionally downright embarrassing conversation that foreshadows physical intimacy. For many people--whether they're young people discovering themselves or adults trying to shake off the rust on re-entry to the dating scene--these conversations can alienate and leave one feeling adrift.
A family medicine physician and former executive director of Sex Positive Portland, Evelin Dacker created the STARS talk as a framework for people regardless of gender, sexuality, relationship style or experience to ensure sexual encounters are safe, consensual, fun and fulfilling for all.Whatever is on your mind--reservations with "hookup culture," expressing a shift in gender or sexual identity or discerning your relationship style--the STARS talk can help you get it off your chest with confidence and compassion.