Language of Perversion and the Language of Love

By Sheldon Bach

Book Overview

From long before the Trojan War to the ethnic cleansings of our own century, people have often used their potential to treat other human beings as things. It is this treatment of another person as a thing rather than as a human being that the eminent psychoanalyst, Dr. Sheldon Bach, sees as a perversion of object relationships and that forms the background of this powerful book. Perversion is a lack of capacity for whole object love, and while this includes the sexual perversions it also includes certain character perversions, character disorders and psychotic conditions.

Dr. Bach's clinical work has led him to conclude that sexual perversions are generally inconsistent with whole object love. Therapeutic experience suggests that the pathways to object love may be strewn with outgrown and discarded sexual perversions. But whether a sexual perversion per se exists or not, the issue of how it happens that one person can degrade another to the status of a thing is an issue of importance not only for the psychoanalysis of character but for our larger understanding of human nature as well.

Perversions are attempts to simplistically resolve or defend against some of the central paradoxes of human existence. How is it possible for us to be born of someone's flesh yet be separate from them, or to live in one's own experience yet observe oneself from the outside? How are we able to deal with feelings of being both male and female, child and adult, or to negotiate between the worlds of internal and external stimulation?

People with perversions have special difficulty in dealing with the ambiguity of human relationships. They have not developed the transitional psychic space that would allow them to contain paradox, making it difficult for them to recognize the reality and legitimacy of multiple points of view. Thus they tend to think in either/or dichotomies, to search for dominant/submissive relationships and to perceive the world from idiosyncratically subjective or coldly objective perspectives.

In this

• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0765702304
• ISBN13: 9780765702302
• Release Date: May 1999
• Publisher: Jason Aronson
• Length: 224 Pages
• Weight: 0.80 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.9" x 6.3" x 9.1"

Customer Reviews

A marvelous exploration of self states and their regulation.

Sheldon Bach has written a teriffic book not only about perversion, but also about the development of self states and their regulation. While all of us have the capacity to have masochistic and sadistic elements in out intimate relationships, not all of us become frozen in those dynamics. In his eloquent work, Mr. Bach simply states,"The pain of suffering defends against the greater pain of loss."(p17) It is at this point that we start to see how failed attempts at relating and separating from the primary caregiver lead to part object relationships(fetishes),difficulties with boundries and problems in self regulation. The book gets extra merit for Mr. Bach's ability to bring the theory into the room and into the relationship between patient and analyst. Whether you are a therapist or a patient, this is a must read.