The Givers and the Takers

By Bruce Feld and Cris Evatt

Book Overview

Make your love relationship the best it can be with the right balance of giving and taking. With helpful self-tests and analyses, the authors of this practical, insightful guide explain why 90% of all relationships are unbalanced. In all too many cases, one partner constantly initiates conflict (the Taker) while the other sublimates his/her needs to that struggle (the Giver). Resentment and guilt fester on both sides and these relationships are very likely to fail. But yours doesn't have to when you discover: * Why you fall for the same type of person again and again * How you can change the course of your romantic life * How to end Taker tricks and disturbing reverse psychology * How to teach your partner about the missing side of your personality * When to bail out, if you must . . . and so much more! Determine your type and what you can do about it -- for a richer, better balanced, and more satisfying bond with your mate!

• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0025366904
• ISBN13: 9780025366909
• Release Date: January 1983
• Publisher: Macmillan Pub Co
• Length: 185 Pages
• Weight: 0.90 lbs.

Customer Reviews

Tremendously helpful insights!

At first, I had a love hate relationship with this book. I sensed that everything in it was true, yet I wasn't ready to face it. Once I got past my denial, I began using it as a reference book for all of my relationships. THE GIVERS & THE TAKERS in not just about boyfriend and girlfriend issues. The information is relevant for any relationship: mother/daughter, friends and co-workers. A great read. When I'm troubled over relationship issues, I can usually find some insightful piece of wisdom that reminds me that I'm giving too much to someone. And, I learned that Takers exist because Givers focus more on other people than on themselves.

Understanding An Aspect of Relationships

I people watch a lot and particularly like to watch the interaction between couples. I see giving and taking going on but not before reading "The Givers and the Takers" did all that interaction become clear. Giving or taking, alone, can become a great problem in relationships. "The Givers and the Takers" offers hope for either a giver or taker. Besides learning about the giving and taking of others, we can also learn about ourselves. Steps to creating a more balanced relationship can be found in this easy to read, easy to understand book if you're ready to take a look at yourself. I highly recommend this book.

The "Light Bulb" Went Off!

I've always wondered why my relationships failed to meet my expectations? The "light bulb went on" after reading "The Givers and the Takers." An easy read, the book provides the reader with thirty defining traits for the two personality types. After studying them, I learned to recognize the traits and apply the remedies suggested in the book to improve my relationships. If you want clarity in your relationships this is the book for you. I highly recommend it.

It's a great book for "Givers" to understand "Takers"

After I reading this book, I understood why people always took advantage of me. Now, I determine when I am giving and when to pull myself back. This is truly a great self-help book!

A great guide to understanding others!

Time and time again my mind refers back to this book! It has helped me understand others as I never did before. By determining which category one falls into, I am better able to deal with that person. I struggle a lot less with others! A great book.!