The Adoption Searchbook: Techniques for Tracing People

by Mary J. Rillera

A how-to book to guide adoptees, birthparents, adoptive parents and siblings to find family members, documents and information. This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0941770028
• ISBN13: 9780941770026
• Release Date: November 1990
• Publisher: Triadoption Library
• Weight: 0.66 lbs.

Customer Reviews

She knows me.... or so it seemed

I learned more about myself from this book, than any other source. I was born (1956) and raised it New York (Westchester County / Whiteplains). When I was almost 44 I learned from my older "brother", that I was adopted as an infant. I found out that My birth parents were Ross and Mary Wiseman; and, My birth name was Ross Wiseman. What I didn't know, until I read this book, was how much being adopted had impacted my life! Before reading this book I would never have believed that something I never knew about, would have had such a profound affect on my life. I work for a company that does personality profiling (The Omnia Group), and while our product explains a lot about me, I have always puzzled by the "gaps" between the "Profile" and who I actually am. This book has filled in many of those gaps.

Still the best search book around!

I used this book when I searched for my son in 1989 and was struck by not only how thorough Mary Jo is in sharing ideas, techniques and sample letters and forms; but also the emotional part of the search journey. It is crucial to go into these searches with our eyes wide open and understand all possible issues the person we seek might have, as well as our own feelings. We also have a responsibility to be discrete and sensitive when we search for our lost parents or children. Mary Jo is both a natural Mother and an Adoptee. I think this is why she totally gets it as to our unique issues. Most of the available search books are written by detectives or other people who have no understanding of the enormous emotional impact search and reunion have. If I was recommending only one adoption search book - this would be the one!

The Best Search Book

As the former leader of an emotional support group, this is the book I recommended for people to use in conducting a search. Mary Jo has been involved in adoption searches long enough that she knows how to overcome the many difficulties. Some searches today go very fast, but this book will also help those people who are having a harder time at completing their search. Mary Jo understand the emotions of searching because she is one of "us."Read Mary Jo's book, join a search and support group, and don't hire the typical private investigator. Searching is part of the healing process!

Searcher's Bible

This book was a godsend! Wanted to find my family and didn't know where to start. This book did the trick. It took me through the process of gathering documents and information step-by-step. Now I'm going to buy The Reunion Book.