Surviving a Stalker: Stay Safe. Avoid Conflict. Regain Your Life.

By Linden Gross

Book Overview

It may start with a chance meeting or a casual smile. It could begin at work, on a blind date, or at the end of a relationship or a marriage. Every year, 3.4 million Americans are stalked by former partners, by co-workers, by strangers. Despite these epidemic numbers, all too often victims' complaints continue to be ignored. Meanwhile, both the stalking dynamic and the toll it takes continue to be misunderstood.National journalist, bestselling writer and stalking expert Linden Gross provides all the necessary tools readers need to know to handle inappropriate obsessive attention. Readers will discover how to control their natural reactions (which often put victims at a disadvantage), how to stop feeding the obsessive interaction that perpetuates stalking situations, and how to protect their privacy and safety. Gross explains how these dangerous obsessions begin, the patterns they take, how targets can protect themselves, and what potential victims can do before the nightmare becomes a reality. Knowledge is power. Armed with information and perspective, stalking victims can make the decisions and choose the course of action that makes sense for them.If you're a victim, Surviving a Stalker will teach you: -How to recognize and control actions and reactions that put you at risk-How to handle inappropriate attention online and off-How to protect your privacy and safety as well as the privacy and safety of your loved ones-How to break the stalking cycle and regain control of your lifeIf you're a professional who deal with stalking, the multitude of case studies in Surviving a Stalker will provide you with a clearer understanding of the crime and the devastating impact it has on its targets. In addition to profiling stalkers and their victims, Surviving a Stalker delves deeper into the subject, offering critical insights on how best to handle stalking while also covering police and legal issues, behavioral and psychological patterns that lead to an escalation of violence.The author was aided in her research by the prominent Los Angeles security advisor, Gavin de Becker, who wrote the book's foreword. De Becker, author of the national bestseller The Gift of Fear, is widely regarded as our nation's leading expert on stalking. His work has earned him three Presidential appointments, as well as a position on a congressional committee on stalking.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0988826208
• ISBN13: 9780988826205
• Release Date: January 2013
• Publisher: Incubation Press
• Length: 338 Pages
• Weight: 1.05 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.8" x 6.0" x 9.0"

Customer Reviews

Something Everyone Should Know

This book has a lot of useful information, and is good to have even when you're not being stalked. It helps you see how the stalker thinks, and how to protect yourself, your family, co-workers and friends. There is another book that would work well with this, that keeps things a little more updated - Stalking the Stalker. In general, most women don't realize that not being clear and concise with their wishes because of discomfort levels can lead to even more problems later on. This book should also be read with The Gift of Fear by Gavin deBecker. I highly recommend it in the process of keeping yourself and your loved ones safe! I think that one should make their decisions according to their situation, but being aware of possible repercussions from things like restraining orders, etc. is an important part of a decision.

This book is a great tool

I would highly recommend this book as it certainly outlines the dynamics involved in stalking cases and how the individual victim can be proactive in their own protection. I have read many reviews in regards to books on stalkers, and many so called professionals continue to minimise the value of this information. As a Professional counsellor who deals with many cases of stalking and interpersonal violence I have read these same books and find them useful, as do many of my clients in assisting in the process of healing after the event and protection before it occurs. Any book on stalking and protection of violence that comes with Gavin Debeckers seal of approval is certainly a must read for me and this is no exception.

Supportive and sustaining

Anyone who's been the victim of unwanted attention can relate to the stories in this book - some are truly horrendous, but knowledge IS power, and I definitely felt more empowered after reading this book! The bad news is that there frequently are no easy answers - the GOOD news is that you are not alone and the answers, though not easy, DO EXIST! Although I prefer Gavin deBecker's book THE GIFT OF FEAR, this book is a welcome addition to increasing one's information resources and sense of protection.