Stand by Her: A Breast Cancer Guide for Men

by John W. Anderson

Every year, more than a million women worldwide are diagnosed with breast cancer. They are shocked, depressed, and terrified-and they shouldn't have to fight this battle on their own. They are going... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0814413919
• ISBN13: 9780814413913
• Release Date: January 2009
• Publisher: AMACOM/American Management Association
• Length: 257 Pages
• Weight: 1.05 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.8" x 6.0" x 8.9"
• Age Range: 18 years and up
• Grade Range: Postsecondary and higher

Customer Reviews

Down and Dirty, Without the Sugar-Coating, A Compelling Resource

Here's a guy who's had almost every woman in his life in a breast cancer fight. He decided to do something amazing with that experience, tell the men of the world who have a woman in their life (any woman - a sister, a mother, a wife, a daughter) how to cope and be the best kind of support for their loved one. The first few pages will knock your socks off. Reading a book on breast cancer almost felt like tempting fate, but I was so intrigued by the idea of a breast cancer book, by a man, for men, that I took the plunge. I'm glad I did. Anderson speaks honestly, sensitively, and informatively to his audience. Any reader picking up this book will learn the in's and out's of the breast cancer process: from the history of breast cancer, to diagnosis, surgery, treatment, and survival after treatment. You see, as Anderson informs us, breast cancer does not have to be a death sentence. By the same token, how a man handles the illness, his own feelings, and the care of his loved one can have lasting effects on his relationships. If you think that this book is a treatise to men on how to be the perfect spouse, think again, Anderson reveals his own story warts and all. The help is in the honesty, research and experience. The brilliance of the book is the author's ability to lay it out for men in a way only men can understand - down and dirty without the sugar coating. I also loved that in each section of the book, Anderson spells out how a brother, father, and husband can help, instead of simply detailing a husband's role. This book is a very compelling read and I believe, a precious gift and powerful weapon in the fight against breast cancer. Well done, Mr Anderson!

Not Just For Men

I got the book with a friend in mind to give to her husband. I started reading it and flew through. I found Anderson's play by play guide very helpful. The world of cancer is like a dark cave to most people. He walks you through in laymans terms and points out what to expect. I actually was reading this book at a gas station while waiting for my car to be fixed. An older gentleman sitting next to me built up the nerve and asked if i had cancer. His wife was a 3 year survivor of breast cancer. We immediately launched into a deep discussion about the book and about life, death and cancer in general. At one point he started to weep. It was a very moving moment there at the Shell station. After my car was finished i gave him the book. He was very grateful. I definitely think there is a great need for this type of book for men. I drove straight to the Barnes and Noble and bought a new one. Even the sales clerk commented on the relevance of the book - I just heard that it has been picked by Laura Landro of the Wall Street Journal as one of the best health books for the year 2009

WOW!

I just today received my pre-ordered copy of this book. John Anderson (and his wife Sharon Rapoport) own The Farm, a creative production company with whom I have had the pleasure to work over the past several years. They are incredible people, fun and talented and kind, and the kind of people who have experiences and opportunities that seem like the stuff of dreams. But they've also experienced the other side of the spectrum. Eight years ago, Sharon was diagnosed with breast cancer, and from all the stories I've heard, John stood by her in amazing ways. John has seen this from other sides, too - his mom, sister, and his mom's best friend all had breast cancer. He wrote this book for the men who love women with breast cancer - to help them understand the process, the emotions, the realities of dealing with this disease. I am devouring the book. Not only is it a valuable resource, it is a wonderful, moving tribute to the strong, brave women who have to enter into this fight. One in eight American women will be diagnosed with breast cancer, so even if you haven't had to face this yourself, you know someone who has, or you will. John is going to be on all sorts of national programs in October talking about this book, so keep an eye out for him. And please, please, please consider ordering this book - for yourself, your parents, your neighbors, your sons, your friends. I guarantee it will speak to their needs. I'm making a list, trying to figure out how many (more) I need to order! This is an unusual angle, not something you see anywhere else, and a very important one. And as we enter into Breast Cancer Awareness Month in October, I'm sure we'll each become aware of many others who have battled this disease, so remember this book and please tell people about it. They'll be grateful that you did.