One Way Ticket to Kansas: Caring about Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder and Finding a Healthy You

by Ozzie Tinman

One Way Ticket To Kansas assists those involved in an abusive relationship with someone diagnosed with, or suspected to have, Borderline Personality Disorder. The text gives a simple description of... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 097678730X
• ISBN13: 9780976787303
• Release Date: April 2005
• Publisher: Bebes & Gregory Publications
• Length: 172 Pages
• Weight: 0.45 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.4" x 5.1" x 8.0"

Customer Reviews

A Must Read, Essential If You Care About Someone With BPD

In my opinion this is hands down the best book out there for dealing with someone with borderline personality disorder. Yes, there is SWOE and other books that are out there, but One Way Ticket To Kansas is the only book that I have come across that is writen from the perspective of a spouse. It is also the only book out there that explains in detail the eratic and seriouly disturbed behaviors the person with BPD directs at the person they are most intimately close to, the spouse. The information in One Way Ticket To Kansas is easy to read, entertaining, and the author has a knack for explaining the complexities of bpd in easy to understand terms. While the book is sensitive to the person with bpd, it also does not pull any punches either and gives an honest look at the effects to caring about someone with bpd. This book will make many light bulbs go off in your head, and help you realize that you have had the power all along to find happiness. It's empowering to the reader and focusses specifically on the reader, not the person with bpd. Once you start reading this book you will not want to put it down. Then you will read it again as you will emotionally connect with the author about so many aspect of your life. This is a must have book.

This is a must have BPD book!

Finally, a book about borderline personality disorder that I could relate to. I have read them all: Stop Walking on Eggshells, Sometimes I Act Crazy, I Hate You Dont Leave Me, etc. None of them relayed information to me in a way that I felt connected to the author. Rather, the other books threw out the information in a very dry fashion, seemingly putting me to sleep. I retained very little from them. The facilitator of my support group suggested that I read One Way Ticket To Kansas. Oh my gosh, this book just blew me away. It explained bpd in a way that I understood and retained. The author used personal examples from his own life and I found myself crying as I finally felt like someone understood exactly what I was going through. There it was in print, the very things I have been experiencing over the last 3 years! Although the author presented wonderful information, he made it very clear that the journey and decision on that journey were in the hands of me, the reader. It sends a very empowering message that you can take control of your life and that the decisions are truly yours to make. If you are dealing with someone with bpd and are looking for useful information, this book has to top your list. If I could rate it 10 stars I would.

Loved the book. You must get this book

When you love someone with borderline personality disorder, your world doesn't make sense to anyone else and you feel completely alone. This author has written a book that explains very effectively the behaviors that the person with borderline personality engages in that leads to your isolation and how they destroy every shred of self worth that you may have. His words pierce you as he explains his chaotic relationship with his wife that has borderline, and throughout the book you find yourself crying and saying, "me too". Light bulbs go off in your head as you realize that you are not alone and Ozzie Tinman is telling the story of many of us that are suffering in a borderline relationship. His writing validates you and helps you realize that you are neither crazy nor alone in this fight to regain your life. As he tells his story, the author shares various expereinces and ways of coping in your life. The coping skills are based in common sense and easy to employ, but very effective and necessary. He explains how all along we Ozzies (the author's term for someone who cares about someone with BPD) have had the ability to change our lives for the better, and that we are not powerless to the maddness that surrounds us. As you read you begin to realize that he is right, and there are brighter days ahead. I suggest this book to anyone in a BPD relationship, as well as anyone involved in any domestic violent situation. The lessons taughts are universal for recapturing your life when someone you care about participates in abusive behavior against you. It is a book about empowerment and caring enough about yourself to not tolerate the abuse. I give it 5 Stars, two thumbs up, a snap and a circle. Rachel

Easy to read information that makes sense; most helpful

I have read "Stop walking on eggshells", "I hate you, dont leave me", "Girl interupted", and "Lost in the mirror". When I bought One Way Ticket To Kansas I figured I would just get the run of the mill book about borderline that didn't explain or help with the severity of this disorder. After reading this book I thought, "finally, someone has the guts to give an honest look at what this illness does to those that care about someone with borderline disorder". Ozzie Tinman gives an honest look about what it is like to live with someone with borderline and does not sugar coat or make excuses. He uses his own experiences to explain that this illness is about and the sincerity of his writing is obvious. There is no doubt that he did in fact face the ugliness of his borderline wife's behavior and grew as a person. Not only does this author share his own story but also breaks down the behaviors that a borderline displays, and explains why they may display these behaviors. But he doesn't stop there. He then breaks down the reader's contribution to the relationship and explains the power to change is in the hands of the reader. This book was a breath of fresh air. I recommend this book for anyone that has a borderline person in their life. Whether you are in the relationship or have left it and trying to recover, this book gives straight forward answers and advice that is grounded in common sense. I recommend that readers seeking information about borderline personality read this book first, then Stop walking on eggshells, then I hate you don't leave me (a difficult read). Don't waste your money on other books. There is a lot of useless material out there. These three are all you need.

The best borderline personality disorder book out there

I purchased One Way Ticket To Kansas after becoming frustrated reading some of the traditional book referrals for borderline personality disorder. What a treat I got. This author explained this complex disorder in easy to understand terms, clear examples of behaviors, and opened my eyes to ways that I could make my life happy again. And the biggest shock was after explaining borderline, the author focussed on the power that the reader has to make changes, thus empowering the reader, rather than making her feel helpless to this disorder. One way ticket to kansas is validating to the reader, yet still sensitive to the person you care about that has bpd. It is a must have if you are in or recovering from a relationship with someone with borderline. The reading is interesting, as the author often refers to his own expereiences and examples gained from his marriage to a wife diagnosed with bpd. However, the tone of the book is not blaming towards the person with bpd. Rather it focusses on the readers ability and power to change their circumstances. I would recommend this book above all others for bpd. I would have saved a lot of money on other books I started and did not finish, had I just purchased this book in the first.