Now That I'm Out, What Do I Do?: Thoughts on Living Deliberately

by Brian McNaught

Book Overview

For many gay men and lesbian women, the first step in a long journey is acknowledging and accepting their sexuality. But what happens to those men and women after they have come to terms with this... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0312156162
• ISBN13: 9780312156169
• Release Date: April 1997
• Publisher: St. Martin's Press
• Length: 205 Pages
• Weight: 0.90 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.8" x 5.8" x 8.6"

Customer Reviews

A great addition to the sociology of being gay

Brian McNaught is truly to heterosexism what Gloria Steinem is to sexism. McNaught takes what heterosexism does to gay and lesbian children and says what would it be like if heterosexual male and female kids and teens were forced to have to dance with, kiss and say, "I love you's" to members of the same gender to which they are not attracted to romantically or sexually? He points out how that would be sexual abuse and how there is no comparable public outcry to what happens to gay and lesbian children. McNaught has been a voice for gays and lesbians since the 1970's and is a true role model. I hope he writes more books and leads us to the next step!

being who you are, and enjoying it.

Now That I'm Out was one of the first books I read after accepting the fact that I was gay. And of all the books I've read since coming out, this was probably my favorite. If you're dealing with your own sexuality, I strongly recommend this book. McNaught writes in a manner that's both lighthearted and serious. His wit and humor keep you turning the pages. And the variety of subjects he covers will provide every gay person with the help they need as they ask themselves the famous question: Now that I'm out, what do I do?

Recommended

McNaught (also the author of Gay Issues in the Workplace, a "certified sexuality educator," exhibits a mature perspective and supporting anecdotal material in this very personal guide to living and thinking gay after coming out. He takes on such topics as gay youth, marriage, family, religion and the workplace in an attempt to address one essential issue to gays: "Why do even those of us who consider ourselves out of the closet often duck personal questions when we know the truthful responses will both liberate us and change the attitudes and behavior of others?" Education and a vaguely spiritual form of self-realization, McNaught concludes, are the answer for gays and straights alike. Years of fielding questions during his talks to corporations and universities across the country has provided him with concise and focused takes on significant problems facing gays in America today. Chattily and cogently written, this book offers solid advice to the majority of gays, who are neither activist nor self-loathing, on how to come to terms with themselves in both gay and mainstream society.

Excellent reading...for both gay and straight...

The author does an excellent job of describing the issues that adult gay males and lesbians face personally and professionally. He provides enough background without being so in-your-face as to offent straight adults. He kills a lot of stereotypes.Nice job.

How to be gay for the "normal" guy

The book looks at how being gay affects everyting in your life and what you can do in each area to cope with it not only for yourself but how you can give back to the people in your life and the community. Brian McNaught is totally comfortable being gay and shows you how to feel the same way without being preachy or becoming an activist. It helps you deal with the daily frustrations of being gay by showing you what you can do about it.