Lifing: Black Men and the Work of Staying Whole

By Dr DeAndre S Pickett

You've learned how to survive.
This book is about learning how to stay whole.
There is a kind of exhaustion many Black men carry that rarely gets named.
Not the kind you fix with a day off.
The kind that builds over years-of responsibility, expectation, pressure, and being "the strong one."
LIFING speaks directly to that weight.
This is not a book about fixing Black men.
It's a book about understanding what we've been carrying-and learning how to live without losing ourselves in the process.
In these pages, DeAndre S. Pickett breaks down: Why endurance becomes identity-and how it can quietly wear you downThe pressure to perform, provide, and always be "on"Emotional containment and the cost of never saying what you feelThe weight of competence and being the one everyone depends onMasculinity, perception, and the fear of being misreadSexuality, silence, and what brotherhood can actually look likeThis book doesn't talk at you.
It speaks with you.
It sounds like conversations that don't usually happen-but need to.
Whether you're: navigating pressure in your careertrying to show up better in relationshipscarrying responsibilities no one else seesor simply tired of holding everything togetherthis book will meet you where you are.
LIFING is about: Awareness without judgmentStrength without self-erasureGrowth without pretending you're not tiredYou don't have to become someone else to grow.
You just have to stop carrying everything the same way.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: B0H9PBYZPY
• ISBN13: 9798187759668
• Release Date: July 2026
• Publisher: Independently Published
• Length: 194 Pages
• Weight: 0.59 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.4" x 6.0" x 9.0"