Lesbian Ex-Lovers: The Really Long-Term Relationships

By Jacqueline Weinstock and Esther D Rothblum

Book Overview

We have earned a certain place in each other's lives, and in the best of times we can rest on what we have made together.

Lesbian Ex-Lovers: The Really Long-Term Relationships examines the need for the development of better understanding and more critical analysis of lesbian ex-lover relationships. This eye-opening look into the minds and hearts of women offers personal insight into the possibilities for and potential pitfalls of lesbian ex-lover relations. This book contains personal stories, fictional accounts, poetry, and theoretical analyses of the frequency and significance of ex-lovers at different stages in a relationship.

Topics of interest in Lesbian Ex-Lovers include: the roles ex-lovers play in our lives ex-lovers as contexts for change and development how we continue to be influenced by ex-lovers letting go and moving on ex-lovers as current friends and family themes of betrayal and loss of faith reconstructing friendships and community the mystique of the ex-lover friend/family connections among lesbian ex-lovers

Rather than totally scrap a relationship, we recycle itfrom lover to ex-lover to friend in a relatively short half-life.

Lesbian Ex-Lovers is the only book in print that explores how a lesbian's ex-lovers impact her subsequent romances and lifestyle. This special collection adds a new dynamic to the current literature for and about the lesbian community.

Lesbian Ex-Lovers offers advice, anecdotes, and interpretations from such authors, poetesses, and artists as: Michelle Gibson, PhDeducator and editor of Femme/Butch: New Considerations of the Way We Want to Go who says goodbye to her lover in a sad, passionate elegy Marny HallPsychotherapist, editor of the anthology Sexualities, and author of several books, including The Lavender Couch: A Consumer's Guide to Psychotherapy for Lesbians and Gay Menwho muses on the unique bonding between lesbians and their ex-lovers, lending a mystique that surrounds the lesbian lifestyle Alison Bechdelcreator of the comic strip Dykes to Watch Out Forwho presents a humorous comic strip thanking her former lovers for teaching her about herself Jane Futchernewspaper reporter and author of three novelswho uses a chapter in her novel to illustrate the tensions that can occur when ex-lovers choose to remain friends, especially when those bonds provoke jealousy in both current and ex-lovers Renny Christophereducator and award-winning poetesswho expresses her love, loss, and regret in three poems about her ex-lover and much more

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1560232838
• ISBN13: 9781560232834
• Release Date: November 2004
• Publisher: Routledge
• Length: 268 Pages
• Weight: 1.20 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.7" x 6.3" x 8.6"

Customer Reviews

Definitely worth adding to your lesbian literature collection!

My girlfriend and I read this book to each other while on a roadtrip. We were both able to relate to the women's stories on various levels regarding their significant loves and losses, passionate drama, and breathtaking intensity. This book has all the right ingredients for surprisingly pleasurable "girl loves girl" stories; we laughed, we cried, we ached. The tales of bittersweet romance and irony made us sorry when the book came to an end. We recommended it to our girlfriends, newly single or happily coupled.