Impossible Love: Or Why the Heart Must Go Wrong

by Jan Bauer

Book Overview

Some love affairs mark our lives forever. Whether we call them la grande passion, tragic romance, or l'amour fou, they remain indelible because they are impossible. Why do we fall in love at the wrong time, in the wrong place, and with the wrong person? Why do we put up with the anxiety, the pain, the shame, and the longing never fulfilled?

This brilliant book explores the nature of these "marvelous disasters" and finds a...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1626549737
• ISBN13: 9781626549739
• Release Date: June 2013
• Publisher: Echo Point Books & Media
• Length: 216 Pages
• Weight: 0.60 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.5" x 5.5" x 8.5"

Customer Reviews

An insight to our own fears to understand ourselves and the situations we live in.

This book is a serious psychological work. I was looking for answers regarding a potentially tormentuous relationship and instead I found insight and understanding, which is far more valuable. The book looks at the issue of Impossible Love (or those love relationships that are difficult to deploy completely) from every angle and point of view in order to provide a complete understanding. It does so from a psychological perspective and therefore the understanding is much more far reaching. The author invites the reader to discover our self being by studying our most deep fears, taboos and unhealed wounds. Therefore, the book avoids to provide answers, but aims at providing the tools we might need in order to make sense of a love relationship that might seem absolute nonsense. I decided to buy two copies of the book. One for myself and the other for my lover. Because love is a matter of two, and more so an Impossible Love. We are enjoying the lecture and to comment the insights it is providing to us. I am sure it will become the guide to make a safe passage through the unavoidable tunnel of darkness that represents any Impossible Love relationship.

ANY impossible Love...

This book is brilliant and unfortunately out of print. It discusses what makes "Impossible Love" impossible to live, impossible to understand, impossible to give up, and impossible to forget. Impossible Love relationships hold a tension of opposites... loyalty to love and it's impossibility in an outer life.... Married/unmarried, teacher/student, doctor/patient, therapist/client, old/young, among others. The book discusses why we might stay in a relationship that brings chaos, confusion or pain long after we realize it is time to move on. In the past, these relationships were called "tragic, romantic, doomed". Today they are called "a neurosis, an addiction, or a projection". Impossible love "jolts us into awareness" through it's pain and hopefully brings a depth and meaning to our true Self in the process of healing. This book will not provide solutions nor answers. It WILL provide insight into the involvement of the psyche in these relationships through the lens of jungian psychology and archetypes. This perspective helps explain why they are such painful relationships. Why they seem to take over our life as we once knew it. Why the 'ups' seem almost euphoric and the 'downs' feel devastating and these extremes seem to cycle. The author sheds light on the meaning of these relationships... ie. "What for?" "Why now?" "Why me?"

Wrong Love, Right LIfe

Although momongamy is heralded as a pillar of societal stability, Jan Bauer delves into the reality that love cannot be confined to moralistic prognostications nor legislative pronunciations. Bauer concentrates on why love affairs happen, without judgment of those who enter into one. This book is sorely needed by those who find themselves in an affair beyond their control and by those who feel victimized or betrayed by someone else's love affair. It brings a rational understanding and clarity to an unseemingly irrational occurence. It may not lessen the pain, but it goes a long way to help in the healing process.