I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You!: A New Understanding of Mother-Daughter Conflict

by Roni Cohen-Sandler and Michelle Silver

Book Overview

For mothers who are reeling from the rockiness of an ever-changing adolescent, or struggling with a relationship that's deteriorating by the day, here is encouragement, reassurance, and great advice. "I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You " discusses the social, emotional, cultural, and psychological issues that can lead to mother-daughter conflicts. It offers illuminating and very recognizable case studies, and demonstrates how mother-daughter friction...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0140286004
• ISBN13: 9780140286007
• Release Date: March 2000
• Publisher: Penguin Publishing Group
• Length: 288 Pages
• Weight: 0.15 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.6" x 5.3" x 8.0"
• Age Range: 18 years and up
• Grade Range: Postsecondary and higher

Customer Reviews

Very helpful book

This is one of the best how to books I've ever read. It didn't save me just made me feel better about the insults being hurled my way by my teenage daughter. I too would like to hide until she leaves the house or take a boot & show her the door but of course will not do that. The book isn't a cure all because everyone has a different situation but I think you will find many helpful "reasons why."

No, I'm not going crazy!

I thought I going was nuts, not knowing how to parent my pre-teen. At last, a book to let me know I was not going crazy by myself, that it is perfectly normal what we are going through, why I as the mom am the target and spring board for her growing up. It also gives ideas on how to rethink parenting, your responses to issues. It shows why "I" the mom am the only one, cuz I'm the closest one to her, that she is 'experimenting with life' off of. I don't feel so alone, I'm okay, and can see why I get the backwash, and the testing. I highly recommend this book to other moms and also dads too, so they can understand the battle while they watch from the sidelines.

best book re teenage girls

At a time when I was ready to give up on being a mother till my teen "grew up", this book was a godsend. My feelings of desperation, confusion, loss, and wondering where I went wrong were all validated. I have already started trying techniques recommended. Even if it doesn't change my daughter, my perception has changed so that I'm better able to cope. Very readable (not a bunch of jargon) I'd recommend it to any mother of a teenage girl. The only reason I didn't give 5 stars was because there were no illustrations. Of course, as an adult I don't have to have them, but I like them. Sometimes a well-placed cartoon helps to illustrate a point. It may be the authors thought illustrations are inappropriate for their book.

Just what the doctor ordered to stay sane!

It's comforting to know I'm not the only mom who has tumbled off her pedestal.Intuitively I may have known my daughter's adolescence would cause bumps in the road, but I had not anticipated many of her (and my!!) insensitive reactions. The book greatly helps to keep things in perspective.