I'm Grieving as Fast as I Can: How Young Widows and Widowers Can Cope and Heal

by Linda Feinberg

A guide for young widows and widowers through the normal grieving proccess that highlights the speical circumstances of an untimely death. Young widows and widowers share thoughts and dilemmas about... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0882820958
• ISBN13: 9780882820958
• Release Date: June 1994
• Publisher: New Horizon Press
• Length: 190 Pages
• Weight: 0.64 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.6" x 5.5" x 8.4"

Customer Reviews

Best thing I've ever bought

This book was the best thing that I ever bought. My partner was murdered in an anti-gay hate crime. I was 27 and he was 30. Read it cover to cover at least 7 times immediately following the murder and then used it as a reference book throughout the 5 year trial. It was great as it was written with the focus on the young widow, most books are targeted more for elderly folks. It has a great section called "It matters how the person died" with a homocide section which was spot on to the feelings that I was experiencing. I was also worried that I would need to "translate" through a hetrosexual taxonomy and bias, but I was pleasantly surprized. This type of experience is incredibly painful, gay or straight, and the entire book was written sensitively so that it would work for both audiences. There also is a nice section on "loss of a lover" which was most helpful to me. It covered loosing a lover or fiancee. If you or someone you know is dealing with loss this book can be a life-saver.

THE ONLY BOOK FOR YOUNG WIDOW/ERS

Losing my wife to Breast Cancer at 31 and having to raise a 1 1/2 year old girl in a small mid southern town I was never at a loss for advice, judgment, or rumors. I was trapped in a group of well meaning people who had no idea what it was like to be a young widower. I felt guilt from people judging me, yet they had never walked in my shoes. I went to grief meetings and had nothing in common with the 60, 70, 80 year olds that were grieving their past. I was grieving my lost future and nobody could understand it. I wanted to start dating and people thought I was callous and snubbed me. I read books that were written for old widows with maybe a chapter on widowers and maybe a sentence about people under 50. A lot were spiritualy based and being in the spot I was my spiritual beliefs were a little ragged. Then I found this book and it truly CHANGED MY LIFE. I underlined half the book, nodded in agreement, cried, and even smiled. Perhaps other books have been written since but I never found another book that spoke to all of the issues that a young widow/er faces. I have given this book to others who have suffered a similar loss and they felt the same. The Author doesn't judge and the book is not a template. It gives you the permission to grieve any way you want to and lets you know that there are a select group of people that are in the same position as you and feel the same way you do. Four years after my wifes death I still cherish this book. If you are grieving and nobody seems to understand you or know someone in this horrible position this is THE book.

It Made Me Feel Good About What I Was Feeling

This book made me feel a lot better about being able to smile and have a good time after my 29 year old husband of a year died. I thought there was something wrong with me because I COULD have fun and laugh. In this book there was a part about when a spouse dies and the couple has nothing between them(no lies, arguements, unresolved things) that the surviving spouse has an easier time going on. Not that it has been easy for me but I know that my husband and I had nothing at all that we regretted during our time together, only that we didn't meet sooner. My husband & I had a once in a billion kind of love; we never fought, we liked all of the same things, we loved just talking and spending time together. We never got tired of each other's company. Thanks to this book now I realize WHY I am able to go out, have a good time & laugh. I miss him more than words could ever say but I know I'm going to be okay now.

Excellent resource for young widows and widowers

Being a young widower only 7 months into this hell I found that this book was very helpful in explaining that I was not alone in this world and there are many others like me. The many quotes used in the book have been said over and over in my mind a thousand times. It covers topics that no other books I have found does like dating, personal and family stresses, and many of the guilts we place on ourself and how other place their guilt onto us to ease their own. If you are not a widow or widower it is still a wonderful book to help you understand us and how we think.This book is a must for any young person who has lost a spouse or someone who is close to them. If you know of someone buy it for them Don't make them find it on their own like I had to. It is noted in this book and I must agree that it is not for the newly widowed...wait a couple months before giving it to them.