I'd Rather Eat Chocolate: Learning to Love My Low Libido

by Joan Sewell

Book Overview

"If I had a choice between having sex and reading a good book, the book wins. I notice I put in the adjective 'good'--and that leaves me wondering if I'm not trying to put a better face on things. I... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0767922670
• ISBN13: 9780767922678
• Release Date: January 2007
• Publisher: Broadway Books
• Length: 213 Pages
• Weight: 0.85 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.8" x 5.9" x 8.5"

Customer Reviews

I hear it all the time

I'm only twent-four and have been living with my boyfriend for two years. I've had sex with other guys and surprisingly, most of them have been skilled in the sex department. But still I'm not as close to being as horny as them or even like Joan Sewell says, as horny as all the women that are on TV and movies now. I feel it's secret I have to keep. Because like the author says, having a libido lower than I guy seems to be a reflection on me. I am a confident and I think pretty well adjusted woman in other areas. For me not wanting sex is not from a psychological hangup (though I'm getting one now from being "undersexed". I read this book in throughout the night and into the morning. This woman could have been my clone. She's funny, smart, and outrageous. Her solution is not for everybody. I just went to her website today and wrote her an email. Maybe I'll find more details about how she got from her sexual stalemate to where she is now in her marriage. All in all a great book. If nothing else, you're going to get a lot of laughs and a radical new way at looking at women's sex drives.

Sick of the Sexperts.

I am so glad someone has the courage to criticize the sexperts. After only two years of marriage I've got shelves lined with sex books. Those authors always take on the male perspective. I never really thought about that before. But it certainly helped me fall into a depression I thought I'd never get out of. This book kept me laughing while lifting my shame at the same time. I shared it with my husband, and I must thank my lucky stars, he saw the light too. Not every man is going to be like that, my guy is unusaully perceptive though and a great communicator, and that makes a big difference too. I'm glad this book is out there. It's brought me out of my shame.

A New Twist On Compromise

I loved "I'd Rather Eat Chocolate"! I've never seen a book like this before. It clarified in my mind why my sex drive is way lower than my husband's. My husband may not have thought so, but I'm normal. Hurray! I like following around with Joan (the author) as she tries different techniques to up her drive. It was all too funny, I had to laugh. Her book is not all happy though. She and her husband Kip have a really bad falling out over lack of sex. They seek counseling (doesn't help). Joan asks what if men were considered the ones with too high of a sex drive. She comes up with her own fake Oprah show in one chapter where guys are the ones begging for help to lower their drives or face divorce. That made me laugh out loud--if only it were true! But she and her husband manage to work things out and end putting a new twist on compromise. Joan says faking lust and letting someone use your body sexually, even in marriage, just breeds hidden resentment in you as the wife, and that either poisons the marriage or it ends up that the husband gets an unhappy, cold wife anyway. She believes that women should have more control over their own bodies and what they want to do sexually. Men shouldn't determine all that just because they're the husbands. And that leads to a happier sex life overall when men concede some ground. This book really got my husband and I talking. Thank you, Joan Sewell. FINALLY, someone saying out loud everything I've been thinking!

A Must Read for every Woman who is Married to a Man

Joan Sewell has written a brutally honest memoir about how the differences in sex drive between men and women can wreck havoc on a marriage. It is gut-busting funny while it addresses a serious topic that affects many couples today. Men will hate this book because it does not look at low libido as something pathological, to be fixed, but rather as something that may be normal in many women. This profound, witty and provocative book pushes the limits and challenges the media image of women's sexuality. It is certain to start people talking!

Straight talk on libido

This is a funny and enlightening book. The author says that a sex drive is based mostly on higher levels of testosterone in men--nature rather than nurture. The book also shows how couples with a libido gap can reach a compromise, albeit one that favors the lower libido woman over the higher libido male partner. That's something most men sure won't be keen on if they want all their fantasies fulfilled. But she claims that she and her husband have sex more frequently and without all the squabbling over their differences. One thing I liked best about this book is its critique of pop culture's take on women's sexuality. The media likes to talk out of both sides of its mouth, painting women as highly libidinous in one venue and hard to talk into bed in another. This book really cuts through all the BS. I highly recommend it.