I Need Your Love - Is That True?: How to Stop Seeking Love, Approval, and Appreciation and Start Finding Them Instead

by Byron Katie and Michael Katz

Book Overview

In Loving What Is, bestselling author Byron Katie introduced thousands of people to her simple and profound method of finding happiness through questioning the mind. Now, I Need Your Love--Is That... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 140005107X
• ISBN13: 9781400051076
• Release Date: April 2005
• Publisher: Harmony
• Length: 254 Pages
• Weight: 1.10 lbs.
• Dimensions: 1.0" x 6.5" x 9.5"

Customer Reviews

Wow, this really works!

I can highly recommend this book to anyone interested in doing relationship work, or simply doing work with themselves. This book does not give you a solution to your problems, but a tool you can use to question your inner voice that has fed you deconstructive thoughts for all your life. This tool is so powerful, that you will soon feel that there is no relationship problem you can't master, doing the work. Of course you need to be willing to do the work and work it is every single time, but the results are so rewarding that you soon will almost be looking forward to another bad thought/feeling to attack you, so you can lay it at rest and know what YOU need to give to YOURSELF, in order to be happy. It's mostly the exact thing that you "think" other people are not willing to give you...

Worth your time and money

I love Byron Katie, and found her CD "I Need Your Love-Is That True?" to be an excellent buy. I especially enjoyed listening to it rather than reading it and I would recommend it in this format. The kindness and compassion of Katie's approach comes through in a way that is easy to experience and recall. Her work is so simple yet profound; the cds allow the wisdom and love to be felt rather than intellectualized. All the personal examples her students have shared of the work they've achieved served to make real the kind of choices made moment by moment that create a life with more choice and more freedom. Listening to Katie do the work is inspiring and empowering as it is truly simple enough for anyone to do and apply to their relationship with another or most importantly the relationship with Self. I loved it!

"It only takes one clear person to have a good relationship - and you are the one."

Katie is such a gift in this world! From a depressed, angry, fearful businesswoman and mother of three, living in the desert of California, to one of the most genuinely loving and real humans around, Katie offers us the opportunity to meet all our stresful thoughts with simple understanding and shows us how to achieve inner peace and clarity. In her first book, Loving What Is, Katie taught us a simple method of self-inquiry she calls The Work. The Work is four questions and what Katie calls a turnaround that can be applied to any thought that causes you stress, pain, frustration, anger and any negative emotion. If peace and happiness is what you are after, The Work is a fast ticket to that wonderful destination. The basic idea is that when we believe what we think, without asking ourselves, we suffer, and when we use The Work to question stressful thoughts, our mind opens and the effect of that is the heart opens as well. In this new book, I Need Your Love - Is That True? Katie gives us lots of real-life examples of how The Work is being applied to relationship issues. No matter what type of relationship you are in, you may notice that you spend a lot of time wishing things were different. Does your boyfriend leave his dirty underwear lying on the floor? Does your girlfriend spend too much time with her friends and not you? Does your mom criticize you? Is your child "out of control?" These and so many other thoughts come into our mind and when we attach to them, thinking that "s/he or they" should be different, we suffer. And, the interesting part is that this hasn't really ever been very successful. Has anybody ever really changed because you thought they should? Because YOU"D be happier (you think) if they did? Katie shows us, with so much love and humor, that when we take the time to question these thoughts, thoughts that we never even created, we meet them with understanding. When you notice that you do the same thing you are accusing your husband of doing (sometimes), your mind opens and rather than the typical frustration and anger you feel, you may experience understanding and peace, and you may find that your heart just opens wide up and you feel the love - the unconditional love that so many people speak of. If you are interested in improving ALL your relationships, I highly recommend I Need Your Love - Is That True? When you realize you are the only one who can make you happy, life gets juicy and so much more fun and interesting. When you realize you are not a victim, you are empowered and the creative, infinite mind begins to take over and whooah hoo - baby! Just kick back and enjoy the ride. I also recommend attending an event with Katie. She is quite amazing and they are so much fun - life changing for most people and incredibly inspiring as well.

Transformative!

"When you say or do anything to please, get, keep, influence, or control anyone or anything, fear is the cause and pain is the result. Manipulation is separation, and separation is painful. Another person can love you totally in that moment, and you'd have no way of realizing it. If you act from fear, there's no way you can receive love, because you're trapped in a thought about what you have to do for love. Every stressful thought separates you from people." - Byron Katie Now, more than ever, the "disease to please" runs rampant through every social, economic, and spiritual stratum. Whether seeking to please or appease a boss, parent, teacher, preacher, partner, child, friend, or god, many are on an all-consuming quest for love, appreciation, and approval. Even self-help books add to the striving, encouraging and teaching manipulative skills for attracting, impressing, and seducing others by pretending to be something we aren't. To put it bluntly, these approaches do not work. Having failed to find love or appreciation from others, millions become the "walking wounded"-blaming themselves and concluding they are unworthy of love. Some authors or gurus go a step further, admonishing individuals to "love yourself" while never addressing the painful root that no amount of bubble baths, candles, or pampering can quell: uninvestigated thoughts. Byron Katie's revolutionary process of inquiry has transformed thousands of lives across the globe. Featured in her first book Loving What Is - Four Questions That Can Change Your Life, "The Work" involves challenging the uninvestigated thoughts that rule our lives. These chaotic stories-which often begin with a "should"-are the source of havoc, discord, and suffering. When met with four simple questions, stressful thoughts and assumptions disappear, allowing individuals to see a situation-and the people in their lives-in an entirely different light. In I Need Your Love - Is That True? Katie applies The Work to relationships and the pursuit of love, admiration and respect. Showing how to take charge of our own happiness, she provides a step-by-step process for inquiring into some of the most painful, foundational beliefs that entire lives are built upon. When exposing these thoughts to the bright light of inquiry, clarity, peace and authentic love emerges. We then realize that we already are everything we've been looking for. As Katie says: "...once you question your thoughts, you discover that you don't have to do anything for love. It was all an innocent misunderstanding. When you want to impress people and win their approval, you're like a child who says, `Look at me! Look at me!' It all comes down to a needy child. When you can love that child and embrace it yourself, the seeking is over." In the chapter titled The Relationship Workshop, Katie shares actual dialogues of inquiry where she asked the questions and people participating in her workshops and schools answered them. Here are a few of the a

The best book on relationships on the market!

If you read only ONE book this year, read this one! Not only is Byron Katie's clarity and depth of insight unsurpassed, she teaches us her simple and profound method of self-inquiry so we can get this clarity ourselves. After 35 years of concentrated personal and spiritual growth, it has been this book that has given me the keys to free myself from the emotional tensions in my marriage and the rest of my life. Where psychotherapy helps us to make the little jail cell in our head a little more comfortable, Katie helps us to dissolve the jail. As a therapist, I see Katie's method and approach as a quantum leap to anything we had before. There is no other method I know that is as meticulous, as thorough, and as easy to use on yourself. Just reading the book will do it for you. And after you're done reading there will be a new way of thinking alive in you that has the power to dissolve tension-producing thoughts for the rest of your life. What a gift! So, if you have tensions in a relationship with anyone, including yourself, this book will set you free. If you want to give anyone a great gift, including yourself, this book is it! Don't miss it! Ram Giri (aka: Andreas Braun, Ph.D.)