How to Raise Your Self-Esteem: The Proven Action-Oriented Approach to Greater Self-Respect and Self-Confidence

by Nathaniel Branden

Book Overview

Of all the judgments you make in life, none is as important as the one you make about yourself. The difference between low self-esteem and high self-esteem is the difference between passivity and... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Mass Market Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0553266462
• Release Date: November 1988
• Publisher: Bantam
• Length: 176 Pages
• Weight: 0.20 lbs.
• Dimensions: 6.8" x 0.5" x 4.1"

Customer Reviews

A word of Advice

This one is certainly the best self-help book that I've encountered in my search for help. I've read some of the supportive reviews, and I agree with the praises. This book has been helpful for me, and I did manage to raise my self-esteem quite a bit, hence the 5 stars. However, instead of doing some more praising, I thought a word of advice is in place for those considering buying this book. I'm writing this for people who seek self-help books because they feel like they really NEED help.In seeking help of the kind this book is offering, it's helpful to understand the limitations of self-help books in general. If you can afford therapy, then I strongly recommend that you seek therapy. An interesting question for you to ask yourself might be - if I need help, why must it be SELF-help? If the answer isn't money, I'd advise you to rethink it.I've worked with this great book for over a year, and I have been to therapy for several months. My impression is that there are improvements that are MUCH HARDER to achieve on your own. I think some of the reasons for me were:- As I worked on my own, my defense mechanisms were trying to make it easy for me, by dealing with problems that were relatively easy for me to deal with. For instance, it was easier for me to deal with my problems in my relashionships with my friends, so I avoided my relashionships with members of my family. Naturally, the latter have significantly more effect on me. - A self-help book tries to help as many people as possible, therefore describing many different problems that people have. Another defense mechanism would make me adopt problems which I don't have, as it is much easier to deal with problems that you do not have. A therapist can help you filter these out.- Finally, any amount of words written in a book could not have the effect for me of the nurturing relationship with a human being, that seems empathetic to my problems, is dedicated, and accompanies me on this very difficult, painful and frightening quest for happiness.If you do decide to buy this book, be prepared for a long rewarding journey, with ups and downs, pain, anger and tough decisions to make. The two things I liked most about this book: First, it helped me feel good enough about myself to be able to seek help, to share my problems with a therapist, and gave me hope (by proving it) that good may come out of it. The second, it is honest. As opposed to the many "Suddenly it's all so simple and easy..." self-help books, it prepares you for hard work, and does not pretend to have some voodoo technique of helping you. Thanks

Not just another self-help book

I read this book because I was interested in Branden's psychology, not to change my life, so I can't attest to that aspect of it. The other reviews have mentioned that the book brought positive results, but with so many self-help books on the market, why choose this one? I recommend it, because Branden is the foremost psychologist on self-esteem. His more in-depth work, _The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem_ is a classic. In his years of professional experience, he has helped everyone from clients seeking therapy to businessmen at seminars. When Branden says self-esteem, he means the real thing, having real things in yourself to be proud of, not a false, inflated image that can burst like a bubble. For a classic and brilliant analysis of self-esteem, along with ways to raise it, I recommend his other work I mentioned above. This one is more of a self-help book, and if that's what you're looking for, I can't recommend it more highly.

A common sense approach to selfhelp

Long before the term "self esteem" was corrupted by the quacks, Nathaniel Branden taught peple how to increase their own self-esteem and sense of worth. There's no wallowing in self pity, or inner-child nonsense, or blaming a dysfunctional family here; Branden's message is simple and effective: You're an adult, and you can take control of your life. With some simple excercises, he shows you how.

Read this book even if you don't have problems.

Picking up this book was the most positive thing to ever happen to me, and I consider myself very lucky to have found it. You don't need to "have problems" or "need therapy" in order to benefit greatly from reading this book. It will change your life for the better in so many ways. It won't happen overnight, but it can happen. After all, consider the fact that 9 out of 10 people who reviewed this book (including myself) gave it a perfect score of 5 stars. That speaks for itself.

one of the few classics of psychology

Before reading this book and doing the excercises, I was a mess. I had severe depression and didn't have a job. I couldn't cope with people and their abuse. My self esteem was so low, that I could't return something to the store that I didn't like. I tried seeing psychologists but my parents could't afford their bills. Then I found this book and started working about 10 minutes a day on the excercises. I felt stronger and increased the work load to 6 to 8 hours a day. I pulled myself out of the depression and feel very strong and confident. Thank you so much Dr. Branden for writing this book.