How to Get What You Want and Want What You Have

by John Gray and Gray John

Book Overview

From the author of the phenomenal Mars & Venus bestsellers, a course in achieving personal, success--the realization of all one's dreams.As millions of readers of the Men Are From Mars Women Are From... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 006019409X
• ISBN13: 9780060194093
• Release Date: January 1999
• Publisher: Harper
• Length: 336 Pages
• Weight: 1.10 lbs.
• Dimensions: 1.1" x 5.5" x 8.3"

Customer Reviews

A delightful surprise!

I picked up this book inadvertently -- and was well-rewarded. While many popular books turn out to be fluff, this one has solid, original guidance. Best section: obstacles. I've never seen such a useful guide to overcoming blocks. Gray identifies the top fifteen blocks and follows up with guides to letting go. Underlying blame is betrayal -- and blame is healed by anger. Wow! And so on for the other blocks. Another gem: When you're missing unconditional love and support, a therapist may help. When you want friendly support, better to have dinner with a group of friends. Sounds simplistic, and maybe it is, but there's no denying that some people do well with therapy, coaching and counseling while others say, "What's the big deal?" Gray's point may explain a lot. Definitely on my "must read" list.

Give it 5 Stars

I listened to this book on audio tapes at the recommendation of a supervisor at work, not knowing what to expect. Boy, was I surprised. The simplicity John Gray uses is the key to absorbing the profound truths he exposes to his audience. I am buying the book now for a permanent reference in my library. The part about the love tanks was just wonderful, and explained things to me I was clueless about before. Too bad some of the negative reviewers can't see the depth and profundity of a work like this. I feel sorry for those who can't zero in and pick out the priceless gems in this book. Little things can make a stupendous impact if you're ready for them. Shalom to you all: "Perfect peace - nothing missing, nothing broken."

Goofy Title, Good Book

This is a great book with really usable, practical advice on dealing with (Gray calls it "processing") feelings and getting beyond the blocks that keep us from being happy. It's not mumbo-jumbo, it's real-world stuff. If you're angry at your boss, for example, Gray shows you how to go "back in time" and deal with the anger at your father for abandoning the family, or whatever your case is. Instead of staying immobilized by negative emotions, Gray shows you how to work through them, feel them and then move on.Most importantly, he shows you how to really WANT what you want--how to be passionate and say, "That's for me," rather than being afraid to feel your goals. This is a really valuable lesson, at least for me.I've read this book twice. The first time I basically blew off the methods Gray teaches, thinking, "It's too much trouble." The second time I was ready to learn, and it really helped me reach my goals and deal with some problem areas in my life.Self-help books come in every variety from awful to incredible. This is one of the incredible ones, in my opinion, but only if you're willing to do the work to fix things. Nothing works in a vaccuum, and nothing gets done without effort.

Empowering work!! Only for sincere success seekers!

This book unveils powerful, yet simple truths about life how to get what we want. It can quickly strip away self-created, unconscious blocks to achieving personal success. Dr. Gray reveals, in an easy-to-read manner, practical steps and information that propels one into a new realm of awareness and experience. I am shocked at just how effective these exercises can be!! Since this book and his seminar, I can hardly keep up with the new opportunities available to me. The book suggests valuable guidelines for the inner work that has brought tremendous peace and love in my life. My dreams always seemed like "pie in the sky", just out of reach, but now they are coming true. Hats off to Dr. Gray for sharing his astounding wisdom with us once again.

Great insights given on how to break thru blocks to success.

I enjoyed this book immensely and recommend it to everyone interested in making the most of their life. I've read a lot of self-help books on how to attain success through various steps, but this one truly addresses what it takes to get what you want. I learned that life's not about getting more and more -- it's about appreciating what you have and also making it okay to go for more. It tells how to break through emotional blocks, something that I saw John Gray do on his Oprah Personal Success series that aired in the Fall. If a person puts into practice what Dr. Gray suggests, good results will happen, I have no doubt. It's already happening in my life. This is no doubt the best investment in a book that I've ever made.