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Paperback Healing the Shame That Binds You: Recovery Classics Edition Book

ISBN: 0757303234

ISBN13: 9780757303234

Healing the Shame That Binds You: Recovery Classics Edition

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"I used to drink," writes John Bradshaw, "to solve the problems caused by drinking. The more I drank to relieve my shame-based loneliness and hurt, the more I felt ashamed." Shame is the motivator behind our toxic behaviors: the compulsion, co-dependency, addiction and drive to superachieve that breaks down the family and destroys personal lives. This book has helped millions identify their personal shame, understand the underlying reasons for it,...

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It's a hard read. It's got the science and development of a child info which is positive in underst

I was so excited to pick up this book. I found it to be overly challenging to read and was really disappointed. It was not what I thought it was at all! I was not a fan of the flow of the book and the personal story woven in. Now, with that said, it opened wounds and allowed "reason" behind the atrocities to be understood which was extremely important to see perspective. The stages of development in a child totally explain and align with the disorders one would have as an adult. I'll try this one again someday I think, but for now it has to be shelved.

Good book

This was a good self help book. It was kind of a hard read because it is a little boring and drags on at parts. That being said I think it was helpful in my journey to recovery from verbal and emotional abuse. I would recommend this book

Will You Love and Accept Yourself for Doing That?

This is a powerful question to ask youself, and those around you, in the face of self-defeating thoughts and comments.I thought I had converted every shame-wound from my childhood into empowering habits, ones that guide me to solve my biggest problems ---until I reread this book.The first time that I read this book, 7 years ago, I was so glad to have a name for the shame-wounds that I kept recreating in every aspect of my life.And once I had a great definition, and many examples of how I not only experienced shame, but also recreated it, I taught myself to respond to my experiences, instead of reacting to them.But what was missing, in all of these years was someone to mirror my evolved self.John Bradshaw points out that we who have come from a shame-based childhood need a circle of people who mirror are needs, wants and beliefs, because it was people, our primary caretakers, who passed on to us their disowned shame.Even though I have read so many books, and have evolved so much, I have had the opportunity to recognize in rereading this book that I need to be witnessed by a circle of people, which I will call my adult family -- without that recognition we all stagnate.Years ago, I couldn't phathom joining such a group, for 3 reasons: 1. I have no chemical dependencies; 2. I feared that baring my soul to a body of strangers would mean that I would be permanently humiliated and ashamed; and, 3. I didn't recognize my need to heal my financial wounds.Well. Thanks to this book I have found that courage to be more visible to a group who positively contributes to part of my journey. I've also healed so well that even if I bare my soul to someone who is toxic, someone who won't be able to compassionately respond to my authenticity, reading this book has helped me to see that I am more than my dark sides.I advise anyone reading this book to do so, with pen in hand. And ask yourself what it would be like to grow, while you are visible to people who are free to allow you to be visible to them.With understanding and appreciation of toxic shame, you will process all of your emotions, and love yourself for that.Thank you, John Bradshaw.

retrieve your soul from hell

It is no exaggeration to say this was the most helpful self-help book i've ever encountered. For a long time I was always a seeker but could never get to the bottom of the "soul sickness" I felt within my deepest sense of self. I was operating under the general theory my soul had been stolen from me in my early childhood. [I was raised by a brutal Amish preacher father who was very abusive physically and emotionally] I could never feel right about who and what I was as a person. This book truly opened my inner eye and gave me the insights and tools to take that mythical inner journey into my own "underworld" and find and retrieve my soul. After many years of depression, divorces, alcoholism, feeling absolutely defective as a human being, this wonderful book brought tears to my eyes, light to my mind, and true healing to my heart. I feel now I am a completely different person than I was during those years of toxic shame hell. While the healing is still ongoing, the light and growth of self esteem I've found are sure and precious treasures "The Universe" , [God?] has blessed me with. If your life seems depressing and out of control and sad; please read and reread this masterful work of self exploration. It can save you from much shame and pain. If you are as toxically shame based as I was, this book could very well save your life and engender a new feeling in your heart and soul: peace and happiness!

this is one of the most helpful books i have ever read.

i have trouble with low self-esteem. this book has helped me to see why i have low self-esteem. i have enjoyed this book more than any book i have ever purchased

Sensitive, probing study of toxic shame

John Bradshaw has written a thorough, concise guide to victims who suffer from toxic shame, in order to help them identify the shame they are feeling and then to alleviate and eliminate that shame. An all-intrusive emotion, toxic shame can devastate a life, destroy marriages, and leave the suffering victim alone and confused. Bradshaw has drawn a road map for these victims to help themselves find the way out of the endless cycle of shame and guilt that surrounds their lives every single day. Since he is also a victim of childhood abuse, Bradshaw has a keen insight into the haunting terrors of being ashamed of your family because of alcoholism, drug dependence, sexual abuse...he covers it all. This book is a must-read for the adult who has been raised in a traumatic setting. Healing the Shame that Binds You is a life-line to victims, and can be the first step on the road to recovery from toxic shame and other psychological problems brought on by dysfunctional family situations.
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