Fulfillment Using Real Conscience: Practical Guide for Psychological and Spiritual Wellness

By N.S. Xavier

Book Overview

Winner of The National Best Book 2009 Awards (in Health:Psychology/Mental Health category) sponsored by USA Book News. Fulfillment Using Real Conscience is a groundbreaking work of insight, inspiration and practical guidance for psychological and spiritual fulfillment. With originality and depth, the author distinguishes between our two inner guides--the real conscience which uses reason and the Golden rule, and the socially programmed "superego" which tends to deviate more or less from conscience. Conscience is our best guide as we make choices in handling our needs like power, pleasure, esteem and meaning. Superego or feelings connected with needs can mislead us and cause numerous problems ranging from abuses, addictions, break ups and break downs and many diseases and disorders to extremism and violence. This book is easy to read and provides a good perspective on fulfilling our needs using conscience and keeping feelings and superego in balance. This unique work is particularly timely to promote peace and well-being in individuals, couples, communities and countries, as we face widespread conflicts, deep crises, and wonderful opportunities for transformation. [Note:This book is a modified (expanded)version of Fulfilling Heart and Soul published earlier] For more about the book see my website:www.nsxavier.com

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1438967284
• ISBN13: 9781438967288
• Release Date: April 2009
• Publisher: AuthorHouse
• Length: 276 Pages
• Weight: 0.80 lbs.
• Dimensions: 9.0" x 0.7" x 6.0"

Customer Reviews

Practical Guidance from an Expert of 3 Decades of Psychiatric Practice in Letting the Self find its

With clinical cases, the author, N.S Xavier, M.D, gives examples of what he means by `conscience' by first starting with a clear, detailed definition of its meaning and how we should apply it to our lives. The case studies exemplify the theory behind applying the concepts of conscience in understanding human needs, why it is essential to suppress our `superego' (p.4) thoughts before they get out of control and how we find ourselves spiralling into a downward turn and to suicidal tendancies, as a result. Further case studies demonstrate how having an awareness of conscience, we become more in tune with our innate ability to make decisions wisely and objectively, as we use our `wise minds' (p.24) to distinguish between a good and bad judgement. It's remarkable how, through these real case studies, such differences make an impact on our lives. changing them for the better, allowing us to see how, in one case study, mental disturbances and suicidal inclinations, originally affecting their relationships to a large extent, can be resolved. Ideas are suggested for developing this concept of nurturing our conscience through theoretical points, backed by 3 decades of psychiatric experience and citations from stories told, of a rabbi visiting heaven and hell and of how those in hell suffer relentlessly, "hell bent" on being rigidly consistent (p.19) by satisfying 'irrational gratification' (p.15) of not learning from past mistakes, bad judgements and lack of insight into their actions. Further references to the philosophy of Confucius, Buddhism and Hinduism are cited to explain why having a conscientious mind, compassion becomes an essential part of ourselves and the decisions we make. An easy to follow guide on using our conscience ensues, showing that extremities of behaviour narrow our thoughts, creating a rrppling effect on our actions [a passage I recommend readers look at, to understand the idea of conscience and consciousness. (pp.25-32)], encouraging unhealthy habits and disciplines which distort our outlook, thus feeding our superegos to no end, resulting in bad decisions made and an unreasonable upholding of extreme ideological thoughts which could easily develop into activist ones. An interesting, yet startling comparison between being superegoism and consciousness is set out in the book: in adhering rigidly to rules, stubbornness is taken out of all proportion so that everyone else is blamed, irrationally. In a clear list-form, such differences are given, point by point and which reads easily (pp.39-40). Bullet points of the healthy effects of having conscience follows, showing the psychological and sanctuary-like wellbeing effects for the person. In addition, the book explains how spiritual defences can be a self defeating game which can harm us in the long term, in always referring to the conflicts between spiritual and physical doctrines using virtuous `arguments' to support such a standpoint. Concepts to help create a healthy co

Comforting

I thoroughly enjoyed this book. It combines our spiritual and psychological self which induced in me the ability to discount stereotypical thought processes and what I thought I was supposed to think and feel. It's okay to follow your real and true conscience. I still refer to this book for myself and friends. It brings about a comfort in knowing it's ok to feel what you have known all along is okay.