Date Rape

by Kathleen Winkler

A concise guide for young people to help them reduce their risk of being the victim of date or acquaintance rape. After correcting societal myths about rape, the book explains what type of person... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Library Binding
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0766011984
• ISBN13: 9780766011984
• Release Date: January 1999
• Publisher: Enslow Publishers
• Length: 64 Pages
• Weight: 0.68 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.4" x 6.3" x 9.3"
• Age Range: 11 to 17 years
• Grade Range: Grades 6 to 12

Customer Reviews

She certainly did her homework

However, I feel that this is still an incomplete book. You see I'm looking at this from a guy's point of view. After all I am one, so alot of this I do need to be reminded of alot; you see I do have the attitude that dating is a "You scratch my back, I'll scratch yours" proposition. Meaning that when I was dating the woman who became my wife we were rather affectionate in the beginning, and then after awhile it almost stopped. I began to get resentful as I felt like I was killing myself to keep her happy, and I was getting butkis. Things that she felt like she was doing for me weren't actually doing me any favors because it wasn't something I wanted, and I felt like it was a "Take what I'm giving you, or leave it attitude", so believe me it was a miracle we did get married, and carried it through until her death in 2003. No I didn't kill her; she died from a heart condition that she had when she was born, and no one in her family knew that. Anyway back to the point; I still shouldn't have pressured her into doing the heavy petting, outercourse, or what have you because it was what I wanted to do. Winkler does make one interesting point here where she tells guys "Not to take the fact that the girl you're with is rejecting you because she doesn't want sex." This is where I feel it's incomplete. You see there's no lines here that a girl can use to keep her boyfriend's spirits high when she says no to sex, or sexual behavior. It's something that is not practiced much if at all in relationship books. Sometimes a girl may not know what to say to help her man stay calm, and reassure him that she's not rejecting him because she doesn't want to have sex. In the great sexual awakening where girls are trying to assert themselves in a sexual world they're being told how to avoid a date rape scenario, but what about the man, or boy? Yes I agree that guys who have the moral that they shouldn't treat a woman, or a girl like a piece of meat hang with ones who feel they should. However, it still doesn't take away the fact that a man will feel a bit of rejection here, and while it's good for a guy to have a number handy of a person they can trust to help them through the rejection, but still it's going to make things awkward for the guy, and no matter how much we tell him not to take it personal it's about as useless as spitting in the wind. Now that we're teaching girls to protect themselves we also need to teach them to help a man feel better about themselves without consenting to sex that they don't want. This will also probably help a guy to rethink his attitudes about dating where he may also be under the "Well who paid for all this on our date, now let me come on you." into "You know I understand, and appreciate the fact that you don't want sex now, and to be honest I still have those feelings for you, and I don't want to lose you." We as boys and girls and men and women both need to change our attitudes about dating, and realize that the one we reject, or r