Born to Please: Compliant Women/Controlling Men

By Karen Blaker

Book Overview

It is the women's inborn nature to please and to submit herself. In a normal relationship it is healthy, but when a man is controlling, she has no chance to develop that nature. With the help of the... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0312021720
• ISBN13: 9780312021726
• Release Date: January 1988
• Publisher: St. Martins Press
• Length: 227 Pages
• Weight: 0.90 lbs.
• Dimensions: 7.0" x 10.0" x 2.0"

Customer Reviews

Should You Leave or Should You Stay?

If you are in a relationship with an abusive controlling man then this book may give you some new perspectives. Karen Blaker was once in a relationship with a man who she couldn't please and decided to get out of the relationship. In her book she explores why some women stay in abusive relationships even to the point of becoming suicidal. "Born to Please: Compliant Women/Controlling Men" seems to have been written either to help women find their way out of an abusive situation or to help women to learn to be more independent so they are not relying on a man for all their emotional and physical needs. Do you feel that you can never please the man in your life? Does he tell you what he wants and then reject you when you give him what he says he desires? You may be dealing with a man who wants control not love. Karen Blanker describes the typical profiles of controlling men and then explains why any woman would stay with someone who doesn't seem capable of showing love. In some ways this book might be a little frustrating because for most of the book it seems the author wants you to leave the relationship. Then near the end she starts to describe how you can stay and still maintain your independence. I think this book will be the most useful for women who are dating abusive men and who want to get out of the relationship before it gets too serious. For women who are married and who want to remain married there is less helpful advice. I think at least one chapter should have been devoted to learning how to deal with a controlling man on a daily basis. In the end of the book there is a section on becoming more assertive which as the author states, might make your relationships even more difficult. So what is a girl to do? Should you leave or should you stay? Only you know your limits and are aware of what you are willing to put up with. If you really love your boyfriend or husband then maybe reading this book will make you seek counseling. If you are ready to throw in the towel then this book might help you make that final decision. To be honest this book is quite the captivating read so I'm amazed there are no other reviews. ~The Rebecca Review