Being Single in a Couple's World: How to Be Happily Single While Looking for Love

By Xavier Francisco Amador

Book Overview

You Can Be Single and Happy
Whether you are actively looking for a mate or have decided that marriage isn't what you want right now, psychotherapists Xavier Amador and Judith Kiersky can help you deal with the problems that come from being single in a couples' world.
Drawing on years of clinical experience and research with both single and married clients, Amador and Kiersky have identified the five common stumbling blocks that can get in the way of enjoying singlehood. Taking a careful look at the obstacles that cause single people the most pain, the authors have developed a four-step plan to help you achieve balance and happiness -- whether or not you stay single. And the first and most challenging step is to stop buying into old-fashioned ideas about singlehood and marriage.
Combining clear advice and vivid case examples, Being Single in a Couples' World gives all of us the tools we need to find our way to a healthier self and more meaningful relationships.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0684852357
• ISBN13: 9780684852355
• Release Date: April 1999
• Publisher: Free Press
• Length: 240 Pages
• Weight: 0.50 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.6" x 5.5" x 8.5"

Customer Reviews

Great seller

Arrived on time and packaged well! The item was just as I expected it to be and in great condition.

A must read for any single, any age!

I bought this book used because I wasn't sure of it. This is a good book for those evaluating why they are single. It's not a "how to" book for meeting men but rather a book that looks at your "life script" and how it creates a self-fullfilling prophecy that keeps you being single. Written by a therapist who has worked with many singles, Once you figure out what you keep telling yourself, accept responsibility for your part in being single then you can be happy about being single and open to other possibilities....

Finally, a book that eliminates the guilt of singlehood

Pretty good book. Helps you get over the feeling that if you're single you're a freak. Gives guidance on how to get comfortable with singlehood, how to resist well-meaning but demeaning comments from parents and others who think the whole world should be married, and how to make decisions involving your status. Some of the case studies border on being a little tedious, but with hindsight, I see the purpose they fill. I'd recommend this book to any single adult.

Excellent book . Empowers single people to enjoy their lives

This excellent book empowers single people to maximize the quality of their lives, while striving to develop intimate relationships. Intimacy is shown as life-enhancing, but not a necessity to being happy, healthy or whole. This important book allows single people the self-esteem they deserve, after all, we are all single at some time in our lives! It contradicts the common societal fallacy that self-worth and respect are contingent upon being in a relationship. The authors clearly show that the most satisfying relationships develop when both people are content, if not delighted, with their lives, and their union brings together two full lives. They then show how cultural stereotypes prevent many single people from achieving this fulfillment. The practical hints for dealing with people who are unaccepting of those in their lives who are single are quite helpful, as is the compassion, understanding and wisdom of the authors.