Be Careful What You Pray For-- You Just Might Get It: What We Can Do about the Unintentional Effects of Our Thoughts, Prayers, and Wishes

by Larry Dossey

Book Overview

The surprising, dramatic truth about prayer how it can harm us...and how we can protect ourselves From the "New York Times" bestselling author of "Healiung Words" and "Prayer is Good Medicine" comes... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0062514334
• ISBN13: 9780062514332
• Release Date: January 1997
• Publisher: HarperOne
• Length: 259 Pages
• Weight: 1.20 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.9" x 6.5" x 9.6"

Customer Reviews

inspired, intelligent worshipping of a knowable God

Having read several hundred books on spirituality, prayer, religion (etc), I'd say this is one of my top five favorites. The only downside is the title. The book's focus is a little bit more on the power of NEGATIVE prayer than anything else. I've never had any patience for religious teachings or faith systems that require you to check your intellect at the door before entering into a holy and inspired place. That's the beauty part of this book. It's written for people who love God and people who refuse to ignorantly worship "an unknown God." Nearly every page of my copy of this book has been highlighted, as I've found so many powerful truths contained there. One of my favorite stories is Dossey's telling of "The Death Prayer." He writes, "When Europeans first came to the Hawaiian Islands, they encountered a practice they literally called the 'death prayer'. They developed a horror of this practice, which came to be the 'most feared phenomenon in old Hawaii.' Eventually, laws were drafted prohibiting it" (p. 98). Dossey then goes on to write in depth about why this prayer is so powerful and how The Lord's Prayer is truly a strong weapon against this "negative prayer." "One native healer said, 'Have you ever heard of the Lord's Prayer. Do you remember the words, 'Deliver us from evil?' You white people have one of the best forms of protectoin, and you don't even know it! Why, I even use it myself!' he said with a grin" (p. 196-197). On page 24, Dossey writes, "I have often thought that a handy definition of negative prayer is 'prayer without empathy.'" As a mature believer, I'd highly recommend this book for all people who take their praying seriously. For Christmas, I purchased a copy of this book for my dearest friends, so they could understand a bit more about the awesome power of prayer - for good and for evil. Some of the best quotes: "We can feel the presence of another as keenly through animosity as we can through love" (p. 183). "Curses permeate our religious life. The most obvious example is the condemnation of the unsaved to eternal, unimagineable suffering in hell" (p. 12). And in talking about the death prayer of the Hawaiian Kahunas, he wrote, "Not only did [William Tufts Brigham] confirm Long's [early 1900s American psychologist] impression that the kahunas could kill people at a distance with negative mental intent...he also described how the curse could be fatal to the individual who perpetrated it" (p. 98). Powerful book. I highly recommend it for anyone who wants to protect themselves from evil people and their evil thoughts and purposes.

Great book!

I thought this book was fascinating. Scientific research in the field of health psychology has repeatedly shown that our thoughts influence our health. This goes one step further to say that other people's thoughts influence our health as well. I think this is not too much of a stretch since we know from quantum theory that certain things can influence other things without coming into physical contact. That consciousness itself is enough to influence the physical world. The author discusses this possiblity and experiments with it. I liked the pioneer spirit of this author. If you want to learn about the connection between consciousness and matter, another great and easy to read book is "The Ever-Transcending Spirit" by Toru Sato. It's also a fascinating book!

Think in the Beauty Way

Larry Dossey describes the Navajo belief in the power of words, the importance of thinking and speaking in a positive way -- in "the Beauty Way." Counter this with how easily caretakers can "hex" a patient's recovery with such statements as, "You have three months to live if you're lucky," or, "Only 2% of people with this kind of cancer survive more than a year."Dossey is a physician and researcher who has helped bring credibility to alternative therapies and to spirituality in medicine. In an earlier book, "Healing Words," he reported on scientific experiments illustrating the positive effects of prayer. In this book he explores prayer's potential for harm. Perhaps the most obvious illustration of this argument is how often nations have prayed for victory against each other, both invoking the protection of God! And we've all heard of the power of belief in such practices as voodoo to create harm. But there can be more subtle influences at work, as well.Citing the sociologist Charles Perrow, Dossey describes the nature of a "tightly coupled system." In loosely coupled systems -- such as a lawnmower's gasoline engine -- the parts are relatively autonomous and can be individually replaced when they malfunction. We are becoming increasingly familiar with the interdependence of more tightly coupled systems, often learning the hard way. In "The Logic of Failure," for example, Dietrich Dorner described a city council which attempted to limit noise and air pollution by lowering the speed limit and installing speed bumps. The unintended effects: Cars were forced to travel in lower gear -- producing more noise and exhaust, increased travel time produced increased congestion, and eventually people began to prefer shopping at outlying malls -- leading to economic failure of the downtown area.Tightly coupled systems -- such as the human body -- are highly interdependent, where a malfunction can create an entirely unpredictable cascading effect. Dossey illustrates how giving orders with prayers can invite disaster. We could pray to rack up our immune systems, for example, and overdo it. Since it's difficult to predict all the complexities of healing, he suggests resorting to the age-old invitation of leaving the details to a higher power.One of my favorite sections of this book is entitled "Reversing Medical Curses Through Prayer." He does acknowledge that doctors don't usually intend to do us in; nonetheless, the harm is real: "Medical curses such as 'It's your funeral,'" he writes, "'You're a walking time bomb,' 'You should have had surgery yesterday,' 'There's nothing more I can do,' and so on, are not uncommon." A spiritual approach can counter the impact of such harmful and influential statements. For example, Dr. Thomas Oxman and colleagues at Dartmouth Medical School found that the factor most highly correlated with survival and a positive post-operative course after surgery was the degree of spiritual meaning in the patient's life. In

Illuminating the Shadow Side of Prayer

Can prayers cause damage and destruction? Do we possess the power to harm others with our minds? If so, how can we minimize the damage? Dr. Larry Dossey answers these questions and more as he delves into the topic of the power of prayer to cause harm in his brilliant book, BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU WISH FOR. Dossey describes how people utilize negative prayer both consciously (in order to win at a game or in business), and unconsciously (venting feelings and thoughts without regard for the effects on the recipients)... and he covers a wide spectrum of negative prayers from the sophisticated curses and hexes of sorcerers to the more common varieties of "drive-by prayer" and "prayer muggings". Those who work with prayer every day, such as sorcerers and priests, know better than to make idly damaging statements such as, "he ought to be shot", or "I hope he chokes" -- and Dossey includes some fascinating stories of how such thoughts have precipitated real physical effects. This book is essential reading for anyone seeking a better understanding of how to understand and protect oneself from negative prayer, even when those prayers come from well-meaning friends, family, and colleagues.

Bad title--scary content

This is perhaps the most unfortunately titled book I've ever read. The title should have been "Black Prayer" and that's what it's about: Praying for *bad* things to happen to people. Call it hexing, call it cursing, call it whatever: Prayer has a flipside about which little is ever said aloud.Fascinating anecodotes comprise most of the work, but if you follow some of the citations you'll see that there's something to all this. Highly recommended.