A Lasting Promise: A Christian Guide to Fighting for Your Marriage

by Daniel Trathen, Savanna McCain, Scott M. Stanley

Book Overview

Build a Marriage of Lasting Love Finally a practical, easy-to-read book that deals with real marital issues from a Christian perspective! Soundly based on both biblical principles and marital... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0787939838
• ISBN13: 9780787939830
• Release Date: April 1998
• Publisher: Jossey-Bass
• Length: 304 Pages
• Weight: 0.90 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.8" x 6.3" x 9.1"

Customer Reviews

Wonderful book and program!

This book, along with the non-Christian version, Fighting for your Marriage, is great! This is great marriage enrichment stuff and helps so much with communication, as well as increasing fun in your marriage. Great for small groups. [...]. As a mental health counselor, I use the tools in this book with my clients and highly recommend it! Also at the PREP website is a list of PREP instructors if you need more individualized help.

Great guide for both Christian clinicians and couples

Part One: Handling Conflict / Protecting Your Marriage Ch. 1: Oneness Ch. 2: Four Key Patterns That Destroy Oneness Ch. 3: Communicating Safely and Clearly: The Speaker-Listener Technique Ch. 4: Problem Solving Ch. 5: Ground Rules for Protecting Your Marriage from Conflict Part Two: Going Deeper Ch. 6: Issues and Events Ch. 7: Unmet Expectations and What to Do About Them Ch. 8: Understanding Commitment Ch. 9: The Power of Commitment Ch. 10: Forgiveness and the Restoration of Intimacy Part Three: The Great Things Ch. 11: Preserving and Protecting Friendship Ch. 12: Increasing Your Fun Together Ch. 13: Enhancing and Protecting Your Sex Life Ch. 14: Spiritual Intimacy and Oneness This book is a useful, easy to read and application and goal oriented book written for a wide audience. If I would to compare this book with other books on the topic of marriage, I would say this book can be described as "The Christian version of Gottman's Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work." The reason why I use the above description is because this book is similar to Gottman's book with plenty of easy to read and easy to follow cognitive principles and exercises; however, this book is based on God's wisdom in the Bible which is different from Gottman's approach which also gives a very refreshing view of cognitive therapy from the Christian perspective. This book is focused on practical action of how a Christian couple can take to strengthen their marriage, but I think this book is still useful for non-Christians. Many practical examples and actions mentioned are needed in today's marriages. There are 3 major sections in this book. Part one starts with the most important message: oneness in marriage and oneness in Christ. This first chapter really gives Christian couples the true meaning of marriage in Christ and the rest of the part one gives basic techniques to teach couples how to handle conflicts and difficult issues. Part two goes beyond part one's basic techniques and talks about deeper issues and events happened in marriage or earlier in lives. Part two gives couples a great concept of how commitment in marriage works which I think many of the secular books do not stress the importance on this issue. However, if you are looking for very thorough analysis on internal hurt and attachment issues, part two only offers very limited information on the deeper issues. It is still a cognitive directed book. Finally, part three focuses on positive aspects like friendship, fun, sexuality and spirituality of how to make marriage work. I thought the authors did a good job by ending this book with a very positive note to allow the full mystery of oneness to be expressed between the couple. This book is a very practical guide and it offers many strategies with the support from Bible verses. At the end of each chapter, there are useful exercises to help the readers to capture the concepts of the chapter. I like this book because it is very easy to read wi

Enjoyable read, application-oriented tool for all marriages

This is the most useful, application-oriented book on how to build a great marriage I have ever read. Chapter two identifies four specific behaviors that are life threatening to marriage. It is based on a huge data bank of research. One study evaluated many couples over a 12 year period, some beginning before they were even actually married. Evaluations were conducted through multiple, extensive interviews and videotaping of the couple's interactions over the years, which were then reviewed by a team of reasearchers. Presence of the four specific behaviors were predictors of divorce with up to 91% accuracy. Each behavior is examined and tools provided to break these habits. Each section of the book is intensly valuable for couples with good marriages and for those in serious trouble. There are samples of different disputes, communications, and problem solving done by couples in real life situations. There are many self tests, and questions for discussion that really help couples identify clearly where their marriages are great and where they could be better. Best of all, these tools are all related back to scripture to solidify the true value and importance of building and protecting a great marriage. I will buy this book for my married adult children and recommend it to every married couple I know! It is a MUST have!

Highly practical and life-changing book

As a military chaplain, I have found "A Lasting Promise" to be one of the most effective tools to use with couples at every stage of the life cycle. Premarital couples, young marrieds, couples with children, and more mature couples have benefitted greatly from the principles presented in this fine work. Based on extensive research, the principles so clearly presented and illustrated in "A Lasting Promise" will revolutionize your marriage and your work as a counselor with premarital and married couples. Don't miss making this resource a part of your toolbox for enhancing your relationships!! -Military Chaplain

Excellent communication and problem resolution tool

This book is a revision of the 1996 book, "Fighting for your Marriage". It has excellent guidelines for resolving conflicts and communication problems and building a better relationship.