Talking with Children about Loss: Words, Strategies, and Wisdom to Help Children Cope with Death, Divorce, and

by Maria Trozzi

Through captivating stories and thoughtful analysis, Maria Trozzi explains how to handle the difficult job of talking with children and adolescents about loss, with discussions about: * How children perceive and interpret events such as death, disability, and divorce * Guiding children through the four tasks of mourning * Helping children face funerals, wakes, and memorial services * Children's fears and fantasies: how they express them,...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0399525432
• ISBN13: 9780399525438
• Release Date: October 1999
• Publisher: Tarcherperigee
• Length: 336 Pages
• Weight: 0.68 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.9" x 5.2" x 8.0"
• Age Range: 18 years and up
• Grade Range: Postsecondary and higher

Customer Reviews

excellent resource

I just loved this book. Fantastic resource for how to talk with kids about loss. Any loss... divorce, death, loss of a pet or even loss of innocence. I recommend this book.

Required Reading For Every Adult

This book was a Godsend to me! My sister died suddenly in her sleep of a brain aneurysm, 9 days after giving birth to her second child. The oldest child, not quite 3 years old at the time, was the first to try to wake her that morning. How do you help a little child understand death and loss - what do you say? What should you not say? I needed specific answers and detailed explanations to guide my nephew through this horrible time for all of us. The author not only verified my instinct to be honest with my nephew, but also encouraged me to become a grief-model for him. She also explains how a child will "regrieve" a loss, such as the death of a parent, many times throughout their lives, and shows how crucial it is that a child learn to deal with and work through grief. Other losses that children experience, such as divorce, are also dealt with in a very comprehensive manner. Loss is a fact of life, and Ms. Trozzi and Ms. Massimini offer invaluable lessons to help you teach your child to deal with these inevitable losses. I keep several copies of this book on hand, because I give it to almost everyone I know. Don't wait till you need this book - read it now!!! I honestly think my nephew is dealing with his loss in a good way, and we've both learned to help each other. To the authors, I am forever in your debt.

Terrific Insight!

Thank you both - Maria and Kathy - for the wisdome, insight and well-defined exposures of difficult times during a loss of any kind. Whether it's a fierce injury or the untimely grief from loosing someone, children must hike through unexpected tragic events and your healthy outlook embraces this process. This informative book leads parents, or anyone, toward bonding with children may be silently suffering. These talented authors present certain steps - vividly and realistically - by restoring and achieving a nourishment of harmony after any adversity. During my years of researching head injuries, I have uncovered the fact that the second leading group subjected to a head injury are children. Since there is very little research in this area I am thrilled to locate this enormous wealth of help for them. I thoroughly recommend this book to any family struggling with grief or any painful experience. You two ladies have surfaced significantly - comfort and advice - by vocalizing the needs children feel, but may have been overlooked. Thank you for sharing all your research and knowledge.

Fantastic Insight!

Thank you both - Maria and Kathy - for the wisdom, insight and well-defined exposures of difficult times during a loss of any kind. Whether it's a fierce injury or the untimely grief from loosing someone, children must hike through unexpected tragic events and your healthy outlook embraces this process. This informative book leads parents, or anyone, toward bonding with children who may be silently suffering. These talented authors present certain steps - vividly and realistically - by restoring and achieving a nourishment of harmony after any adversity. During my years of researching head injuries, I have uncovered the fact that the second leading group subjected to head injuries are children. There is very little research or reading material concerning this trauma so I am thrilled to locate this enormous wealth of help for them. I thoroughly recommend this book to any family struggling with grief or any painful experience. You two ladies have surfaced significantly - comfort and advice - by vocalizing the needs of children; feelings deep inside them which may have been overlooked. Thank you for sharing your research while you continue to make a difference in this world.

A solid, well written book.

This book gave sound examples and concepts regarding the process of grieving. This book has helped me discuss and answer questions about death, to my 4yo daughter. With this books guidance, I know that dealing with the loss of her grandparents will be easier on both of us. If for no other reason than the level of understanding the grieving processes. Additionally, I have been able to use the concepts to help my child deal with a close family friend's distant move. A great "reference" book to have around.