You're Never Upset For The Reason You Think: The Cure For The Common Upset

By Paul Cutright and Layne Cutright

If you are truly ready to enjoy relationships as "upset free zones" in which you experience deeper and more satisfying levels of love, connection, cooperation, creativity, synergy and more . . . then... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0965137112
• ISBN13: 9780965137119
• Release Date: January 1
• Publisher: Heart to Heart
• Length: 176 Pages
• Weight: 0.65 lbs.
• Dimensions: 9.0" x 0.5" x 6.0"

Customer Reviews

I wanted to make lemonade out of my lemons!

If one is progress to higher levels in life...then one must be able to seize the adverse opportunity..and turn it around. Well that sounds good..but how does one do that? I empowered myself..with Paul and Layne's book! Now I have the power and I am teaching my family "how to". My legacy is.."we will survive and thrive as a family". We will get stronger as we shed the ignorance of lessons in life that couldn't be learned, at one time! I am grateful that I get to see the light and feel more love.

I wanted to make lemonade out of my lemons!

If one is to progress to higher levels in life...then one must be able to seize the adverse opportunity..and turn it around. Well that sounds good..but how does one do that? I empowered myself..with Paul and Layne's book! Now I have the power and I am teaching my family "how to". My legacy is.."we will survive and thrive as a family". We will get stronger as we shed the ignorance of lessons in life that couldn't be learned, at one time! I am grateful that my family and I get to see the light, feel more love and be more empowered.

This is a must read for everyone!

"You're Never Upset For The Reason You Think" is one of the most powerful transformational books I have ever read. It challenges the negative core beliefs that stand in the way of obtaining true and meaningful intimacy.This book has allowed me to become clear about the constraints I place on myself and within my closest relationships. It's contents have given me the tools that allow me to take responsibility for my upsets and behavior. In taking responsibility, I then have access to healing and resolving my "bottom line thought". This is where I go to create the changes necessary to have the type of relationship I really want, not just dream about.One of the most empowering things you can do for yourself is take responsibility for your actions. "You're Never Upset For The Reason You Think" has changed my life.Thank you so much Layne and Paul!

Thank you, Layne and Paul!

Their first book, "Straight from the Heart," has helped many people develop, deepen, and renew their relationships through improved communication. "Straight from the Heart" explains how to deliberately create moments of true connection, and helps reawaken your capacity to connect deeply with the people you care about most.And now, Layne and Paul have just released their second book, "You're Never Upset for the Reason You Think." I had the opportunity to read an advance copy of the book, and I was very pleased at the combination of great wisdom and easy readability the Cutrights have achieved.Through our website, we often suggest to our members that they can make great strides forward by identifying their own part in difficult situations, rather than simply blaming them on others. The Cutrights' basic premise for this book is based upon that concept. They explain that by taking "Radical Personal Responsibility," one will find a source of inner strength and power that no one can ever take away.Sounds great, but since many of us had no role models in taking personal responsibility, how do we begin doing it? When our members asked us, "What does this mean?" or "How do I do it?" we have had no guidebook to recommend, until now!The Cutrights clearly explain the meaning and value of taking personal responsibility, and provide us with a ROADMAP for achieving it! They offer a method which they call "the CURE," the Conscious Upset Resolution Exercise.They offer the CURE in two parts:Part one is the Solo Inquiry, which anyone can learn to perform by themselves, to help identify the real reason for the upset, and then begin working through it. This process is clearly and explicitly described, using a worksheet to help accomplish all the steps in order, omitting none. The BIG payoff here is identifying and clearing the real issue, rather than the apparent one.Part two of the CURE is the Dialogue. After the Solo Inquiry, you gain awareness of your responsibility, and have released much of the emotional charge. Now you are ready to discuss the issue productively with the other(s) who are involved. And the authors tell you exactly how to do that, in a way that's effective in achieving the best possible results.The profound and elegant wisdom of this inspiring book is something we can enthusiastically recommend to everyone, confident it has the power to improve lives.

Transform Your Relationships forever!

Paul & Layne's book, "You're Never Upset for the Reason You Think," has transformed my romantic relationship and many of my close and intimate relationships (any relationship where I experience a challenge and choose to apply the CURE)! The authors lay out in crystal clear detail the how and why of personal upsets. The CURE is a simple and effective tool where you discover and consciously get to see where your upset originates from, how it is held (glued) in place, and the barriers that are used to prevent us from freeing ourselves from the cycle of our upsets. The authors then show you how to consistently release these upsets allowing one to transform your relationship with yourself and others. Becoming personally responsible for all my upsets has allowed for an increased intimacy and closeness that has transformed many of my relationships! I am truly grateful for such a detailed and clear process for unconcealing what has heretofore been hidden and causing me to be unconsciously creating a divide between myself and other people, especially the ones I love most. Additionally, if you have ever wondered how personal transformation works, the authors offer numerous models, distinctions, and diagrams that show the process in simple and yet detailed precision. This is the most comprehensive personal transformation process with simple and easy to use exercises I have seen in print. This is a must resource for anyone in a relationship. Additionally, it is an invaluable tool for those who are involved in assisting others in unlocking personal blocks that limit full authentic self expression while in loving relationships with others. I highly recommend this book!