Your Girlfriends Only Know So Much: The Surprising Truth about What Men Are Really Thinking

by Finesse Mitchell

Book Overview

Comedian and Essence] columnist Mitchell clues women into what black men are really thinking at every stage of a relationship, from first contact to deciding to propose. This is a lighthearted but... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1416589945
• ISBN13: 9781416589945
• Release Date: January 1
• Publisher: Gallery
• Length: 208 Pages
• Weight: 0.45 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.5" x 5.5" x 8.5"

Customer Reviews

Great book!

I really enjoyed this book. It made me look back at my last relationship in a new way. I highly recommend that all sistas read this!

A Must Read!

This book was so funny and at the same time helpful. I consider myself quite an expert on men and I totally agreed with about 99% of the perspectives in this book. I did learn a little more than I had anticipated and I was shocked, well maybe a little surprised, that a black man would be so frank and honest about dating and relationships. I want to go and buy all my girlfriends a copy so they don't have to borrow mine...

Entertainment, Cliff Notes to Dating, and Charming

I love "Hell Date," and when I saw a bulletin about Finesse's book on Keedar Whittle's page, I immediately checked out the videos for it. The videos were so funny and I'd been enjoying Finesse's column in Essence magazine for quite some time, so I bought the book the same day. I will admit that I was initially a little skeptical about the book though because his comedy DVD was sometimes funny and sometimes repetitive. However, his Essence articles are hilarious, and so is this book! I loved it! Pros: I'm 75% quicker to go to a guy friend or my grandfather for advice on a situation that I'm having than a female friend because I know I won't get man-hating advice or something that seems more easier said than done, and I will always get a brutal and thought-provoking response. For the past week, Finesse has been my guy friend through all of the relationships I've been in. There was only one thing in the whole book that I didn't already know or hadn't already been told before, but it was satisifying to confirm my beliefs. I especially appreciated how he not only checked women who were doing things that would never land them a man, date, or even a second phone call, but that he was fair enough to admit the downfalls of various types of men. There were certain parts of this book that were more personal to my own situation (i.e., phone calls and attention), so of course I enjoyed those moreso than others which I'm not ready for (i.e., marriage), but even if you're not in a state of some of the women he's talking about, I think everyone has a female friend who they'd love to buy this book for so SHE can read that one chapter. There were times when I sincerely wanted to start typing out quotes to friends because it definitely rang so true with their situation, so I'll be recommending this book endlessly. Mr. Mitchell did such a great job. I wish the book was longer, to be honest with you. I zipped through it so fast, I might reread it. The quiz, the Nas story, and the grayed essays were intriguing, but my favorite part of the whole book were those funny conversations between men and women that he made up to prove his points. Cons: This isn't really a con but more like a speculation--In Chapter 4 "The Dating Game," Finesse lists bad first dating places that I don't really agree with. I'm not being argumentative when I say this, but when I was reading through that chapter, I was grinning and thinking about how my favorite dates were in the places he said were bad first dates. I had a great time with one guy going to a "ghetto carnival" because I got to see his athleticism, if he liked to have fun, and see if he'd punk out on the suicidal rides I wanted to be on; the movies was a perfect place to smell another guy's cologne I dated, see if we had the same sense of humor during the funny scenes, and see if he could be well-behaved in a dark room. However, recently I've had the most boring date ever going out to dinner, and I'd never go to a poetry slam,

Direct and To the point, yet funny.

This book was extememly funny, but to the point. It was insightful and had some key things that we all can take a lesson from. I shared the flowchart and dating questionnaire with my girlfriends. A must have for any single sistah and must read for relationship refreshers for married and/or hooked-up sistahs.

Funny, On Point & A Life Saver

Wow, if you are a sistah that has problems understanding her man, then you may want to buy a copy of Your Girlfriends Only Know So Much. Why? Because it's true. A woman can give you advice about a man and sometimes the info is so horrible ya'll end up breaking up. So if you really want to know the true nuts and bolts about black men, the best person to go to is another HONEST, FRANK, and UNDERSTANDING black man. And Finesse gives it to you straight, with a wonderfully humorous twist. He lets us know about when to talk to a man and when not to talk to a man; when to leave and when it is okay to stay and work things out; great advice about first dates and how men really feel about sex (as if we didn't already know). He kinda spills some men secrets here but it's okay, we women that care about our relationships need to know what we're doing wrong and how to get things back on track. Finesse gives lots of easy to understand practical examples. And his advice works. That's the most important thing. So if you don't read any other male/female relationship book this year, you gotta read this one. It's refreshing, contemporary, and tells it like it is.