Working on Yourself Doesn't Work: The 3 Simple Ideas That Will Instantaneously Transform Your Life

by Shya Kane and Ariel Kane

Book Overview

The acclaimed, life-changing book that shows you how to stop "working" on yourself--and start living in the moment

Have you ever wondered what it would feel like to go through your life without stress or self-doubt? To have a real sense of inner peace and fulfillment? Now you can--through the three simple principles in this book. Just as they do in their world-renowned workshops, Ariel and Shya Kane teach a refreshingly natural approach...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0071601082
• ISBN13: 9780071601085
• Release Date: September 2008
• Publisher: McGraw-Hill Companies
• Length: 160 Pages
• Weight: 0.45 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.5" x 5.4" x 8.1"

Customer Reviews

Working on yourself doesn't work.

Reading this book doesn't work. It was a waste of time. Full of feel good fluff. I have no idea how this book got any good reviews. I'm glad it wasn't expensive.

Awesome!

This book not only puts me at ease, but also makes my experience of life far more three-dimensional. As a passionate artist and art consultant, I've had many inspiring, colorful, and alive experiences. I've been overwhelmed by the magnificence of nature, and the way our bodies look and feel. I've felt deep love and connectedness, but without support, these experiences remain scattered. I used to think I had to meditate to be a part of this profound level of meaningfulness with consistency. The Kane's books are an incredibly valuable support in turning this into a lifestyle. A must-read! If you want a clear, experiential demonstration of Transformation, or Enlightenment, this book is unparalleled.

Life really can be this simple. WOW!!!!!! YEN Florida

I am a professional female that has felt out of place since I was 13. I have seen therapists and searched for something to fix myself my whole life. I have read many self help books and done The Landmark Forum. In 1998 I landed in an AA room and was taught the 12 Steps of recovery. I read the BIG BOOK and thought the stories were exaggerated since I couldn't relate to them. I stopped drinking and took the suggested steps; taking a "fearless moral inventory" of myself by identifying my so called defects of character. As I grew in recovery, I was to take a daily inventory of myself which constantly reinforced that there was always something wrong with me that needed fixing. I now have 7 years of uninterrupted sobriety and recently I had the pleasure of reading the book "Working on Yourself Doesn't Work" and WOW!!! Did I get it... See in AA we strive to live a day at a time but to be able to live a moment at a time was not something I had ever considered (I mean who can live in the moment there is so much to plan for?). It wasn't by doing the 12 steps that I learned I was living my life based on exaggerated truths made up as a child. These ideas ranged from "don't let anyone ever tell you what to do "to" don't ever depend on any man". These ideas never supported me in my life. They in fact have hindered every relationship I ever had whereby I never married or had children. Now that I am aware of those ideas thru reading this book, I have never looked back or thought about them again. I have quit trying to work on myself. I have accepted my life and everything about it. My life is so easy today. I have actually been able to save a relationship that I unconsciously have been sabotaging for the last 3 years. I saw clearly why I was afraid of success. Since I now have the insights, I choose not to go back to the past and judge myself or others for anything that happened. I also choose not to spend time in a place that doesn't exist yet. I can just concentrate on the fabulous moment and how it feels to be here right now. Talk about freedom from the bondage of self. My shackles have been taken off permanently. Thank you to Ariel and Shya for sharing their incredible experiences with the world and most importantly for the ease in which they do it.

This is a great book !

This is a book that both enlightened and touched me on many levels. We live in a culture that is either striving towards the future, what is the next goal I need to achieve, or obsessed with the past, what wrongs have been done to me by my family, my culture, my religion, etc. The idea being that either achieving goals, or figuring out why I do the things I do will bring me happiness and self-satisfaction. I've personally tried both approaches and found them lacking. I have set goals and accomplished them. I read books and took seminars to "figure out" why I was the way I was. Neither of these approaches produced any lasting sense of accomplishment. At best all I got was a brief respite from a sense of despair. The Kanes have a different approach, awareness, being in the moment, is the key. The Kanes define awareness as a non-judgemental seeing of what is. This was a radically different way of looking at things and the effects on my life have been profound. I find that I have become vastly more effective with less effort. My relationships have never been so rewarding and my work is also greatly improved. I've bought copies of this book for my family and many of my friends. I recommended it to them, and I recommend it to you.

A New Refreshing Perspective For Life

Working on yourself doesn't work - what a provocative title! Haven't we all tried for most of our lives to make things better, to improve ourselves, to grow? And there comes this odd proposition: Forget about working on yourself! I was confused and intrigued. Then I got really excited, as I started grasping the concept and its impact. I can stop trying to get somewhere. I can stop trying to become somebody else, a better version of me. I can relax, I finally can be myself. The Kanes' book opened the door to a new possibility for me, a new way of dealing with myself and others. Living in the moment is their key proposal, and throughout the book, different aspects and examples of living in the moment are given. It sounded odd and overly simplistic at first, but then I tried it and the magic began... It's not a book to be read and then pondered over, it is a book to be lived. When I started exploring how I dealt with past and future, looked at my patterns and ideas, an exciting journey of discovery, discovery of myself began. I found out that I don't need improvement. I found out that my friends, my husband, did not need improvement either. I rediscovered how to have fun and how to be fully engaged in what I was doing, rather than worrying about the past or planning for the future. And things have gotten easier - at work, at home. The greatest news is ... it doesn't seem to end. There is no limit to having a great life and it keeps getting better!Thank you Ariel and Shya Kane for a wonderful book that has shown me a simple yet so powerful new approach to my life.

A FANTASTIC BOOK BOOK!

I originally bought this book because the title intrigued me. You see, after reading many, many self help books and going to seminars by Tony Robbins, Zig Ziglar, Brian Tracy and doing several "self awareness" workshops over the years, I became jaded. Why, after reading and trying so hard, did things not work for me? Why do I go right back to frustration and dissatisfaction?I understood the reasons why after reading the Kane's book. I understood that transformation and change and "self improvement" doesn't have to be a struggle: that there is no way I can live the life I want to live by "working on it."There are no techniques in this book. No 5 steps to success. No formulas. No, "we've observed and studied happy/successful people for years and this is what they have in common." In place of that, they urge us to be where we are at. Stop judging and blaming ourselves and others (especially our parents) for how we "turned out.". By just being aware of how we are in any given moment, and not judging that experience, we can transform. That is their message. Seems simplistic, doesn't it? It is far from it.It is hard for many of us to understand that non-judgemental awareness of how we are being in the world is the key. It is difficult to accept that fighting where we are at and how we are feeling keeps us in that space of pain and anger.This is not a rehashing of old ideas presented with new words in new ways. This was, for me, totally different than anything I had been exposed to. This is an easy book to read. it is very clearly written. I can't recommend it highly enough.