There is more to the words you use every day than mere banter. Your language has a big influence on how you connect with other people, even if you don't realize it. Your language gives you the ability to communicate your emotions, empathize, and shape how other people see you. Your emotional intelligence is based on your vocabulary. Either your vocabulary builds bridges or it burns. It matters how emotionally intelligent you are. Being emotionally intelligent means understanding and managing your own and others' emotions.