Amsterdam does not need you.
That's the point.
In an era of ranked itineraries, viral caf s, and cities reduced to backdrops for curated feeds, Wish You Weren't Here dismantles the modern tourism mindset-and rebuilds it with intention.
This is not a guidebook.
It is a recalibration.
Written by an American who moved to Amsterdam and stayed, this book explores what happens when visibility becomes infrastructure, when tolerance is confused with permission, and when optimization replaces presence. Through sharp cultural critique, lived experience, and grounded observation, Koko Terry exposes the hidden mechanics shaping how we move through cities today.
Inside you'll discover:
Why "seeing it all" guarantees you'll feel nothing
The difference between tolerance and indulgence
How walking-not optimizing-changes perception
Why cities don't need your validation
How to leave something better behind than consumption
This is not anti-travel.
It is anti-extraction.
If you are going to go anyway, go well.
Amsterdam is just the beginning.