Your flashy cousin flaunts her lavish new cars and extravagant vacations on social media. You judge her showy displays as vain and pretentious. But at family gatherings, you notice pangs of longing and inferiority. What if your contempt masks secret envy of her confidence and wealth?
Like this situation, we often project unwanted parts of ourselves onto others. Your resentment toward attention-seekers may expose your cravings to shine. Anger at greedy capitalists could reveal frustration about missed opportunities. Judgment hides desire.