Why You Do the Things You Do: The Secret to Healthy Relationships

by Tim Clinton

Book Overview

In this transformational book, the authors have used ground-breaking research to develop four primary patterns of relating to one another that shed light on our actions--and how we can learn to love and be loved even better.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1591454204
• ISBN13: 9781591454205
• Release Date: January 2006
• Publisher: Thomas Nelson
• Length: 272 Pages
• Weight: 0.70 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.8" x 5.9" x 8.9"

Customer Reviews

Great self help resource

This book is an insightful, well written, easy to read, resource for people who are willing to take a look at their relationship patterns and how they may be getting in the way of meeting your needs. I highly recommend it.

A great read!

This is a wonderful God-centered book to explain how attachment disorders happen and are translated into adulthood baggage. I read it to understand someone else and found me in it. Not only does it describe the problem but it goes into the solution. Easy to read and understand. Just a great book.

The bedrock of all relational books...

The earlier (hard copy) edition of this book was titled "Attachments" and used primarily by competent clinicians everywhere. The book has been "oprahfied" (if you will) in that it is now palatable to the lay person who wants to rise to the challenge of "Know Thyself". There is simply no better place to start in terms of understanding the relationships you have and hope to have.

Finally, insight to long sought after questions about connectiong with people/family

- a must read for adults who want to better understand their childhood/family dynamics and improve them, and for parents who do not want to repeat mistakes of the past. The authors have offered insight into family dynamics based on scientific study and their work with patients. They have uncomplicatedly classifed relationships into 4 areas. The premise is that our relationship styles are based on the relationships we had in our families. I have not been able to book the book down. The authors also offer a section on building healthy relationships with our children and tools to change your future. Over the years, despite a successful career, great husband and family, I have had nagging feelings of emptiness and loneliness my entire life. But on the outside, I look like a happy, well adjusted and confident working mom. What is the source of these feelings and how do I replace them with happy feelings? I have been reading books on self-esteem. Some of the content is relevant, but I feel that what I am reading is a prescription for a symptom, not the true problem. Reading "Why you do the things you do" was an incredible Ah-ha moment. I think I now have the start of a comprehensive tool kit - to really review my history and my 'today' in a completely and constructive manner. I need to mention that I have seen the book in Christian book stores. One of the author's goals is to help build a stronger relationship with God of a relationship style has hindered that in the past. The Christian content is fairly small and a bit understated.