Why Can't You See Me?: Good Men Do Exist!

By Christopher J. Cokley

A book that is finally willing to deal with the topics in a way that has been avoided for far too long. ?Women do you know what it means to be sensual, not just sexy? Come hear the criteria that a... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0974749605
• ISBN13: 9780974749600
• Release Date: November 2003
• Publisher: Love Life Publishing, LLC
• Length: 244 Pages
• Weight: 0.65 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.5" x 5.5" x 8.5"

Customer Reviews

Good Men Do Exist

Stop the press, we have a winner. WHY CAN'T YOU SEE ME? GOOD MEN DO EXIST! by Christopher J. Cokley and Aaron M. Blake is a must read guidebook to answering the ladies' ongoing question; where are the good men. The majority of the sisters think they understand men. However, the authors threw down on us sisters and believe me it was the best in your face literature I have ever enjoyed reading. WHY CAN'T YOU SEE ME? GOOD MEN DO EXIST! is a self-help book that begins with the revolution of dating and the negativity we have about black males including but not limited to the dating outside your race centrum and the metamorphosis of the hip-hop generation. We have come a long way baby from the respectable male knocking on the door with flowers in hand to the assortment of thuggish type males who will blow the car horn yelling your name. Christopher J. Cokley and Aaron M. Blake very skillfully removed the myths that all men are alike and want only one thing from a relationship. The book highlights that male and female interactions are to be reckoned with because present day attitudes dictate that we have gone beyond the reproach of establishing healthy romantic relationships. WHY CAN'T YOU SEE ME? GOOD MEN DO EXIST! outlines the areas that both male and female need to work on in order to establish a positive commitment with a good man and woman. The sexual revolution has made sex the number one priority between a man and a woman leaving behind education, job status, and financial stability. Therefore, good men have become invisible to the female because her new age definition of a relationship has changed over the years. The authors' explanations are remarkable and detailed with in-depth research, which makes simple sense. Mr. Cokley and Mr. Blake have opened up doors of understanding about the black male's upbringing and becoming a man. Their priorities differ because of peer pressure and sometimes lack of male role models during the growth and development stages. Some women see them as mere males, fine, smooth talkers, GQ dressers, with money and perhaps a good job; fancy ride and skilled lovers. What I learned in WHY CAN'T YOU SEE ME? GOOD MEN DO EXIST! defines a different side of the black male that comes with mixed emotions and intelligence that reaps havoc with the myths of past and present. I enjoyed this book because the authors didn't beat around the bush nor did they make excuses, they just presented the good man ideology in a nice package that you can either take or leave it. Mr. Cokley and Mr. Blake truly did their homework. They candidly describe the good man and how you can recognize him. It is a wonderful page-turner because for once there is hope for seeking a good man, but it is also telling us sisters that we have some serious work to do on ourselves as well. In addition, the poetry selections gave even more depth and soul searching for the reader. If you're wondering why you can't find a good man, I suggest you run to the

GREAT READ!!!

This was a great book - very insightful and thought-provoking. A must read for men and women who are serious about looking for a quality and meaningful relationship or strengthening the one they are currently in. Kudos to two brothers who have legitimate concerns about the African-American community!

An Empowering Book !

After reading the book, the authors debunk the Propaganda that black women can not have quality relationships with the black men. In fact, come to think of it, these authors destroyed ALL of the lies - THANK YOU!! Seeing both authors at our local college, in front of a standing room only audience, brought tears to the eyes of many women, including ME! Thank you for giving me HOPE and once again telling it LIKE IT IS!! I have told my friends, who tired of the rage and the drama and they are having a great weekend read!

GREAT READ!!!!

I just finished this book and it was GREAT!!! It really good gave me hope for the brothers that I know and those who are looking to better themselves and get ready for the love of their lives!!! A must read for all who want to strengthen themselves and their relationships!

Well written book

This is a well written book by these two gentleman. This shows the hard work and tons of research Aaron and Chris have done on the subject. Well Done!