"You can't have it all," the retiring classics professor had said. "You young folks think new laws that recognize women's rights have changed things. You expect to be a wife, a mother, a best-selling novelist, and a political activist in your spare time after your job as a college professor. I'm here to tell you it can't be done. Being a scholar is a lifetime commitment. You take that title seriously, and you can kiss your dreams of a husband...