What the Years Did to Us is a decade-long, unflinching account of a man's journey through love, marriage, betrayal, and the pursuit of a triad relationship that promised freedom but delivered complexity. What begins as a conventional marriage fractures under unmet expectations, emotional immaturity, and incompatible growth. In the aftermath, the author enters polyamory seeking honesty, expansion, and connection-only to discover that openness does not eliminate power imbalances, jealousy, insecurity, or self-deception.