What Not to Wear to a Murder Trial: and Other Tips Tragedy Taught Me

By Barbara Allen

Control is an illusion. That lesson is on the house- you don't even have to buy the book for it. Because more than book sales I care about sharing the lessons I have lived and learned. The key is, knowing what you can and cannot control, and then learning how to maximize that power. The other side of that key is learning how to turn things you are powerless to control into opportunities instead of excuses. Friend, I've been to hell and back to learn the lessons in this book. There are few humiliations I have not suffered, dignities I have not surrendered, no pride I have not allowed to damage me, and no betrayal I have not allowed to drop me. All of that pretty much sucked for me, but it also led me to where I am today. It even brought moments of stunning beauty, joy, and gratitude only those who've lived in darkness, pain, and hopelessness can appreciate. If you feel trapped under the weight of pain, grief, trauma, and hopelessness, there is something in this book that will help you. If you are easily offended, commit to overcoming that before you read this book, or just put it down and step away - you're not ready for me yet. The lessons in here aren't all mine, by the way. I'm blessed to know hundreds of amazing people, and to have interviewed many of those people. Some of their lessons are in this book, too. They believe in me, and I believe in you too. Let's do this. Barb's path began in 2005 when her husband, Lt Louis Allen, was killed in Iraq. Lou and the commanding officer were murdered by a fellow soldier. That soldier was ultimately acquitted after a lengthy judicial process, in spite of his submission of a guilty plea. It was the pain of her loss and the unjustness of the trial that fueled Barbara to write her first book, Front Toward Enemy. She found inspiration for her second book, How to Woo a Widow, when she opened herself up to love again. Together with her fiance, Barb created American Snippets.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: B099C47LW1
• ISBN13: 9798536421154
• Release Date: July 2021
• Publisher: Independently published
• Length: 178 Pages
• Weight: 0.72 lbs.
• Dimensions: 9.0" x 0.4" x 6.0"