Venus On Top: Women Who Are Born To Lead And The Men Who Love Them

By Barbara Wright Abernathy

Book Overview

Once Upon a Time male dominance was necessary for survival. Men led, women followed. There are men who can accept nothing but the dominant role. Likewise there are women equipped by temperament and... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1886939667
• ISBN13: 9781886939660
• Release Date: February 2005
• Publisher: Oakhill Pr
• Length: 316 Pages
• Weight: 1.00 lbs.
• Dimensions: 9.0" x 0.8" x 6.0"

Customer Reviews

For those of us who march to the beat of a different drummer..

This book was given to me as a gift. A male friend had heard Barbara Wright Abernathy at a speaking engagement and told me "She says the same things you've been thinking". With the book in hand I also took the time to visit the authors website. Have you ever heard someone say "She wears the pants in that family", or "She's one bossy/powerful/in control woman"? Well, that is the type of woman this book was written for. Barbara had failed relationships and didn't know why. This book details her experience and what she and her husband, Stephen, learned together. Relationships like this aren't for everyone, but there are a lot of us who needed someone to put the idea into writing. No one talks about power levels between partners. Some partners argue all the time about finances, even though one is clearly more adept at managing money than the other. With help from this book, I can see where it's possible to have a relationship with clearly defined roles. Perhaps I get an extra vote when we're tied on a decision. Or he agrees to always check the 'Honey-Do-List' first thing on a Saturday morning. If you're a strong woman, it helps you figure out how you and your partner can simply clearly define your roles in the relationship. It's been my experience that men love to please their women. This book just brings certain aspects to light and helps women to see and acknowledge the power we DO have..and how to use it in a healthy way for creating happiness in our relationship. This book isn't about living with a Female Dominatrix or involving heavy 'kink' into your home life. If that's your choice, fine. But this book is more for the average folks - of which I am one - who would simply like to have their relationship be closer and more loving. There are more of us powerful women out here than you would think! This book gives me food for thought .. and action. Thanks Barbara and Stephen!

Serious Advice for Dominant Women Seeking Cooperative Men

In the franchising business, franchisors have long known to look for husband-and-wife teams where the wife runs the marriage and the business . . . and keeps the books while the man follows her orders ungrudgingly until he drops from fatigue. If you recruit dominant males instead, the wife stays at home . . . and you get only one person working on the business rather than two. The only downside to these hard-working couples is that when the men hit their 50s, they often run off with a submissive female employee and stop working on the business. Smart franchisors help these couples sell their franchise businesses at that point to pay for the divorce settlement. What's that story got to do with Venus on Top? More than you would expect. Many women are born to lead in their work, their businesses and in their marriages. Pair those women with men who want to lead in the same ways . . . and you have one leader too many. Pair them with a man who wants to follow and please them, and you can have a recipe for more successful marriages. I decided to read this book to gain more perspective on my great grandparents and parents . . . where in both generations the women led. The men followed silently in their wake . . . but not always happily. This book echoed one phrase the males all learned early in our family, "When the women are happy, the men are happy." Ms. Abernathy describes her experiences with three failed marriages and her conclusions about how women who want to lead at work and at home can find compatible males who will enjoy that kind of relationship. She also provides advice for those who are willing to be a woman who follows her husband's lead . . . but the primary value of this book comes for those who want to know how to get what they want . . . and know what that is. Much of the book is based on Jung, studies of ancient goddess-based religions, positive thinking and self-help methods. If you are familiar with those subjects, you won't find anything new in those sections. If you would like to learn a little in those areas, the material is accessible. Most women I know would call this a five-star book just for chapter 10, Training Your Man or Why Real Women Don't Do Housework. That section provides the best explanation I've ever seen of how to help men take on household chores in ways that will be pleasing to women. The essence of the advice is to provide hands-on demonstrations, answer questions, observe, correct and provide encouragement. Now, was that so hard? Men can learn. Every household chore that I do now was learned through that process. The book veers off in a few places that can be misunderstood by being too literal about what she says. Ms. Abernathy, like a large percentage of women, has a thing about men leaving the toilet seat up. She does go on in addressing that problem which really bugs her. This is a litmus test of a man's devotion to her. She also makes it sound like giving or withholding sexual f

A Kinder, Gentler, Saner Approach to Wife-led Marriages

Review: Venus On Top is an easy and provocative read offering lots of insight and good advice from an author whom adversity has clearly taught some of life's most important lessons. A quick trip through history shows us that Goddesses ruled until male dominated empires and organizations usurped their power and stole their crowns. While men eventually gave up their swords for a seat in the Senate, men continued to dictate policy and procedure with little consideration for the "weaker sex" - father knows best, after all. Organized religion seems to appear as a major culprit in any historical account of the suppression of women's rights and the author builds a case to substantiate that point of view. While this historical section appears to have been carefully researched and might be of interest to those scholarly types who appreciate a sense of the past, I had a tendency to scan this material eager to get back up to date. Typically, Web sites promoting relationships where the female is the dominant mate or partner rely more heavily on graphic examples of how a man's constant craving for sex can be used to a woman's advantage. When you consider that men seeking fulfillment of their submissive desires generally read these books and sites, the style and content is most appropriate for the audience. However, Venus On Top takes a kinder, gentler, saner approach, which not only reflects the author's point of view, but also seems more in keeping for a book designed to reach a female audience. This book represents a more palatable way to introduce a reluctant mate or partner to the concept of a "Wife-led" marriage or Female-led romantic relationship. However, while I found the author's account of this lifestyle to be both fascinating and informative, what I personally found most insightful was her account of the personal events that led her to where she is today. After forty-seven years, which included three divorces and two bankruptcies, she found something that many of us (male and female) continue to seek - a way to break a cycle of self-destruction by following a path of positive enlightenment. To me, that insight is worth the price of admission. The clarity provided left me feeling much more optimistic and hopeful that there is a reward at the end of the rainbow, if we're willing take the time and make the effort to accept responsibility for our own happiness; by so doing, we control our destiny. I highly recommend this book. It contains a lot of good advice and information. Whether you are dominant or submissive, male or female, straight or a little bit Rock `n' Roll, Venus On Top appeals to a wide audience on many different levels.

A Guide to Happy, Long Lasting Romantic Relationships

Barbara Wright Abernathy has written a wonderful guidebook for women and men that offers a blueprint for a happy marriage and/or romantic relationship. Ms. Abernathy's message to women is to not be afraid to assert yourself within a romantic relationship-communicate to your male partner exactly what you want. Then show him how to give you what you want. Ms. Abernathy's message to men is to not be afraid to give a female partner exactly what she wants--pleasing a wife/girlfriend can be a wonderfully happy experience for a man--especially within the framework of a romantic relationship. Written in a friendly, familiar style, Ms. Abernathy's book encourages women to insist that their men treat them with deference and respect. Men are likewise encouraged to be sensitive to their wives/girlfriends needs. Women are encouraged to seek out male partners who will support them in all their endeavors. These men exist and are eager to provide their girlfriends/wives with this kind of affection. This is a GREAT BOOK. It is very practical and reflects real world experience. I have found that the approach Ms. Abernathy outlines really works. There are many suggestions on how to put these principles into practice. I highly recommend this book to anyone interested in enjoying a happy, long lasting romantic relationship.

BUY THIS IF YOU DON'T FIT THE MARS-VENUS STEREOTYPES!

In my search for new information on dating, romance, and love relationships, I've come across a real winner for women and men who don't fit the traditional Mars-Venus stereotypes. First of all this is not a book that recommends that all women should take the lead (Be on top!) in their marriages. In fact, women who are more the "Surrender Wife" types should probably stay away from this book unless they want their belief systems shaken and minds opened up. But for women who are naturally dominant, this is a unique book with information and strategies for creating a happy marriage with a different kind of man than they were originally taught to desire. The fact is that there are some men who enjoy a strong, powerful woman and such a woman should not be discouraged from being her natural self in the relationship world. Instead, she should retain what makes herself special and look for a different kind of man who appreciates and likes the way she is. Women will especially like: * An entire chapter on how to train your man to do housework. * Interviews with men who enjoy being in a women-led marriage. * The 4 Essential Characteristics of a Good Man This book is an interesting and enlightening mix of solid spiritual principles and heartfelt personal experiences. It offers a simple but effective recipe for take-charge women who want to succeed in romance as well as career. It is a welcome break from the Mars and Venus strategies that don't apply in some romantic situations.